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A bit of a lighter topic today: What is fun?

This seems like a simple question that would be tempting to hand-wave away as a "Well you know..." but the more I think about it the less cut and dry it seems.

Some prompts to get you thinking

  • What are the merits and purposes of fun?

  • What makes something fun? Though different people find different things fun, is there a common thread that makes those things fun?

  • Is it easier for some kinds of people to have fun than others? What kinds of situations lend themselves to fun experiences, which make them difficult?

  • Are there ways for people who have forgotten how to have fun to "get back in touch with fun?"

  • Do you think you have enough fun? Too much?

  • How much fun is the right, or a good amount?

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[–] jadero@lemmy.ca 4 points 8 months ago (3 children)

I think that one thing shared across everything fun is challenge. Not just a challenge, but one that is possible to make progress against. Participation in shared goals often plays a role, but without challenge, boredom reigns.

Nobody joins a recreational sports team to sit on the sidelines or to just wander around the field of play. They join to participate, to contribute, and to meet the challenge of making important contributions, which means gaining or refining skills.

The same could be said of joining a community band.

Why are video games so popular? If there was no difficulty getting through or it was impossible to get through, they would fall flat.

In any activity that I call fun, whether it's going for a row, building a boat, writing a new bit of software, or tackling calculus, there is always an element of challenge or opportunities for continuous improvement.

[–] AceTKen@lemmy.ca 3 points 8 months ago (1 children)

I agree with the spirit of your post. Enjoying difficulty isn't universal and says something about what it entails for each person and what challenges they enjoy.

Sports? Yeah. Why play if you're not having fun and challenging yourself to do as well as you can?

Band? I... dunno about that. I sing in bands not because it's hard, but because it's entertaining to viewers and myself, and many people like being good at something and showing off.

Video games? I play for a good story, exploration, novelty, beauty, or solid gameplay. The challenge is irrelevant and an extreme challenge can cause me to quit and turn me off a game completely.

To me, it's like reading a book. There's a time and place for something like House of Leaves (the Dark Souls of books), but the matter of it being hard isn't the reward. As I say in my Steam reviews, I don't play games in order to develop Stockholm syndrome. I've gotten more out of a game like Eversion than any Souls-like I've ever played.

[–] jadero@lemmy.ca 2 points 8 months ago (1 children)

I guess I didn't express myself clearly. I'm not talking about enjoying difficulty for the sake of difficulty. Nor am I talking about the joy that comes from an engaging entertainment. I'm talking about the spark that comes from accomplishment.

I played in a community band for 35 years. Every hour of practice at home was focused on maximizing what could be accomplished in rehearsal. Every hour of rehearsal was focused on maximizing the impact on the audience. Every hour on stage, moving the audience was the reward for all the hard work. I didn't know of anyone in the band who had a different attitude and still got enough out of band to keep showing up.

Of course there are many ways to have fun. Sports fans obviously have fun watching a game, but pay attention to how they talk. They're coaches and strategists and tacticians and referees and analysts, not mere observers.

[–] AceTKen@lemmy.ca 2 points 8 months ago (1 children)

All good. Sometimes it's hard on the internet since we rely on the reader's comprehension. Happens to me constantly!

I fully agree with your interpretation. The sports thing has always mystified me, but I think you just got at something that struck home a little in a way it never has before, so this is kind of an accidental impromptu CMV.

Not to sideline the discussion, but previous, it was "I do not get sports fans. Playing a sport, that I get. You win, you lose. Watching a sport though? Why? You have nothing to do with the outcome. There is no victory for you in this. You gain nothing and all it does is cost you time and money."

But you're right. Sports fans in my family really do what you said above.

I still don't get the spending more money you than you can afford on memorabilia and other garbage trinkets, the making it a large part of your personality, the animosity with the other teams, the violence to their city when they lose, and many other bits, but the watching makes sense now.

I legit appreciate the response!

[–] jadero@lemmy.ca 2 points 8 months ago

I still don't get the spending more money you than you can afford on memorabilia and other garbage trinkets, the making it a large part of your personality, the animosity with the other teams, the violence to their city when they lose, and many other bits, but the watching makes sense now.

I think most of that can be explained by a kind of tribalism. The whole system encourages the "fanatic" roots of being a "fan" over or in addition to the "mere passion" for the game. In fact , the Saskatchewan Roughriders football team goes as far as ads stressing the importance of the fan as "the 13th player" on the field (there are only 12 actual players on the field at a time). This has led to a fan base that might be more likely to attend a game in person when the team is struggling. That seems to be a bit of an anomaly in professional sports. (More amusingly, the team also blew a couple of very high profile games by accidentally fielding an actual 13th player! That in turn led to jokes that a dozen beer in Saskatchewan came with 13 cans and references to our inability to distinguish between "a dozen" and "a baker's dozen, both of which seemed to only increase the "tribal" passion of the team's fans.)

As far as I can tell, the passion exists without the worst of the fan tribalism at the recreational and kids level. On the other hand, that passion and the whole "coach/analyst" thing might explain many of the toxic behaviours that arise in "hockey parents".

And I think that tribalism at the team level is behind most of the toxicity inside the locker room and in team behaviours outside the arena. The Canadaland podcast group recently did an excellent series on the problems inside junior hockey that highlights the problem.

All of which is way way off topic, but I hope we're deep enough in the thread to not matter.

[–] ddrcrono@lemmy.ca 2 points 8 months ago (1 children)

I feel like this covers a significant part of fun, but maybe not all of it completely: Ex hanging out singing songs around a campfire with people you love is fun. (In this case you could even say it's fun because it's comfortable and familiar).

I feel like the kind of fun you speak to here is increasingly common and may be the only type of fun some people actually have but I feel like the idea of challenge doesn't capture all possibilities.

[–] jadero@lemmy.ca 1 points 8 months ago

I feel like the kind of fun you speak to here is increasingly common and may be the only type of fun some people actually have but I feel like the idea of challenge doesn't capture all possibilities.

Yes, as the conversation continues, I realize that I put too much emphasis on one aspect of what I find fun. Although it's in the sense of accomplishment that I most often find pleasure, I certainly do have fun doing other things.