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I don't know how to deal with what to me is a thin skinned and gossip coworker. (linux.community)

submitted 9 months ago by vestmoria@linux.community to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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She is a good coworker, meaning she knows her duties and has ample experience.

She is also a gossip and a person that will rant when somebody doesn't greet her the way she believes she deserves to be greeted, or about how a coworker or manager wasn't friendly to her. It's both what she says and how she says it, like she was hurt.

I still don't know if what she wants is that everyone stops doing their jobs when she enters the workplace to give her attention, because otherwise, apparently, people hate her. She is also very pretty. Not that I'd want a relationship with her, because this trait is very off putting.

I've already heard her saying I'm not friendly and I don't know who should I react. I think it's ridiculous to start giving her attention to keep the peace because I have things to do that pay my bills and it would be very draining, I cannot fake interest in things that bore me. I don't understand why we can't just do our jobs and go home.

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[–] SmashingSquid@notyour.rodeo 15 points 9 months ago

My mother is like this. She will never be happy and is addicted to being a victim. My mother actually pulled the victim card during Covid because her work was paying her to not work but she had to call every morning in case they needed her. She said it was worse having to call in the morning rather than work so was basically a victim because she got free paid time off while lots of people had lost all of their income.

Nothing you do will make this woman happy. Don’t try and be more friendly to her because it doesn’t matter. Better to act disinterested in everything she says and don’t answer personal questions she can twist and gossip about to other people.