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[–] UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world 13 points 10 months ago (2 children)

There are few things sweeter than sleeping in on a Saturday and waking up to a clean, quiet house.

Waking up early, making pancakes for a couple of gleeful little munchkins, and then going out to the park to run around and have fun is one of those things you forget you used to love doing when you were younger.

[–] Ataraxia@sh.itjust.works 4 points 10 months ago

Nah. I'm good. My vagina is in tact and I don't end up bear homicidal every day.

[–] FlashMobOfOne@lemmy.world 2 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (2 children)

True, until one of them screams about something that doesn't matter and you have to will yourself not to strangle them.

[–] Stegget@lemmy.world 10 points 10 months ago (1 children)

To be fair I encounter that problem with other adults, too.

[–] FlashMobOfOne@lemmy.world 2 points 10 months ago

Yeah, but you can walk away from a grownup. You're stuck if it's your kid.

[–] UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world 1 points 10 months ago

one of them screams about something that doesn’t matter

I mean, one of the challenges of child care is having empathy for kids who are still struggling to regulate their emotions. If you're openly dismissive and adversarial to kids, their behavior tends to get worse over time.

There are plenty of people who simply aren't mature enough, themselves, to know how to interact with children. That's one big reason why its helpful to have large extended family homes. Grandparents - particularly those who are retired, experienced, and nostalgic for parenthood - can be way better at dealing with little kids than adults who are themselves too emotionally congested and socially anxious to know how to respond.

But people routinely overstate how difficult child care can be, in large part because they fixate on the grumpy and frustrated children while suffering total blindness towards the happy, well-adjusted, and well-behaved kids.