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[โ€“] MonkeMischief@lemmy.today 0 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Maybe we have a slight misunderstanding about CBT? CBT I'm referring to is "Cognitive Behavioral Therapy", not exposure therapy. I hope the exposure therapy was beneficial to you though. :)

Basic CBT I'm talking about is a talk therapy modality where the patient is trained to observe the cycle between their thoughts, feelings, and actions, and pay a bit more mindfulness to how they react to things.

I don't wanna bash it! But my point is, sometimes men in particular are not raised to understand or differentiate their emotional feelings on a deep level, so this talk therapy alone doesn't really give them something "actionable" to start solving the problem when you keep getting asked:

"So how does that make you feel?" "Bad?" "Why?"

It can be helpful and it certainly helped me! BUT alone, it also has a blind-spot where it's not as helpful to the way men experience the world. Usually much more externally, and less "pondering feelings."

I know I'm not articulating this the best way, there's a lot of nuance, but I'm glad it's started a productive discussion!

I'm merely saying it can be better, not trying to tear it down. :)

[โ€“] snek@lemmy.world 1 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

No, I'm confident about what I said. Exposure therapy is one part of CBT.

I did CBT for PTSD and death anxiety, the latter involving large bits of exposure therapy.

https://www.psychologytools.com/professional/techniques/exposure/

Do you have any evidence about men having issues with this sort of therapy or is that a personal observation?

Edit: honestly it sounds like you had a bad therapist experinece and that therapist has no idea what CBT is (and sorry to say, but neither do you particularly)

Edit: had to add the passive aggressive smiley :)