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Ive been to multiple therapists, usually I switch when I get to the maintainace phase, except the last time when I just decided to save the money all together. This isn't something that happend in isolation, and like I said last comment literal doctors have also intervened in some of these areangements. Please stop acting like you posses some truth I have yet to find. 'Emotional response' or not, having needs going unmet causes mental and physical duress and side effects, necessarily. No matter how happy you pretend to be about it.
I never said they didn't. And I never said you have to be happy in the face of it. There's a distinct difference between "content", the word i used, and "happy", the word you seem to hear.
Society fuckin sucks for the majority of people, I think we can all agree on that bit. And yet, a lot of people manage contentedness despite these absolute facts.
There exist things outside of our ability to control, directly or otherwise. Often, these things get in the way of our needs. You have 3 options in this case. Give up, ram into it with everything you have and fuckin hope it works, or accept it and find a way to be content despite the roadblocks.
Yes and I'm telling you I've spent years going to professionals trying to feel 'content' and it doesn't really change shit. Either you can swallow it and smile or you're gonna gag. Therapy didn't move the needle nearly as much as investing in the knowledge and infrastructure to remove myself from the problem, which is property and small scale farming. Notice how the only thing standing in my way is means, means I was slowly giving an insurance company who took more than their fair share from my doctor or therapist to tell me to try and smile about it instead. Therein lies my point, therapy solves my bosses problems not mine, it's a distraction from mine. You're mileage may vary, but like I said way up top, therapy can't solve every problem. Hell therapy can't solve the same problem for every person either with how wildly different peoples brains are even on a chemical level. Sometimes it works, other times it doesn't. Like every other medical treatment.
I'm sorry that therapy hasn't worked out for you. I do acknowledge that not every kind of therapy works for every person, or for every problem. I only truly made progress when I found a very specific type of therapy that resonated for me, doing a lot of that journey on my own, and finally bringing it into a therapist office when I reached the end of what I could do alone.
I hope your life path has you moving towards something you consider better, however that looks for you.
Thanks for your anecdote. We get it. You don’t care for therapy. Conversation over, moving on.