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[โ€“] heron@lemmy.world 53 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Mindfulness. You may not be able to turn off the (insert negative feeling here), but you absolutely can turn off the suffering.

[โ€“] sbv@sh.itjust.works 10 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (5 children)

I tried guided meditation daily for two months and didn't really notice a difference. Do you have any recommendations?

EDIT: I should mention this was with the Headspace app, following their mindfulness uh... lessons.

[โ€“] Rumbelows@lemmy.world 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It took about a year to make a difference for me.

I guess they call it mindfulness practice for a reason

[โ€“] sbv@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

A year! I didn't really know what to expect, so two months seemed like more than enough.

[โ€“] MadBigote@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

... With an app...

[โ€“] klemptor@lemmy.ml 5 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Oh man I tried meditation with Headspace too and I couldn't hack it. For some reason meditation made me so angry! Like this weird rage would come out of nowhere.

I did find it frustrating that the narrator would give a prompt for what to do, then just enough quiet time to begin, and then interrupt my effort with his talking. Aggravating! But the anger was a separate thing.

I always thought meditation was supposed to help you feel calm and grounded but all it did was frustrate me. :(

[โ€“] sbv@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[โ€“] klemptor@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 year ago

Lol that's really funny...I actually hate yoga too, but it doesn't provoke rage, just annoyance because the last thing I wanna do is listen to some white lady done on about chakras! But for it to provoke anger in inmates is disturbing.

[โ€“] AstridWipenaugh@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It made you feel something. Now sit there quietly and think about why that is. What are you getting frustrated with? Why is it bothering you? Unfounded rage is trying to tell you something about yourself. There's a reason, but you have to be able to be honest with yourself to figure out what it is. Once you can begin to understand it, you can begin to find ways to manage it.

[โ€“] PlutoniumAcid@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I feel frustration because it sounds like you are right and that is not helping.

[โ€“] heron@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago

I've had good experience with the Waking Up app, which is primarily Insight Meditation. If you can, a multi-day silent retreat allows you to be truly immersed in the practice of just watching your mind and all of its silliness.

[โ€“] Ashtear@lemm.ee 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I use the Great Meditation Youtube channel.

For this topic, it's far from what I would call an easy skill; I'm going on six years and it still feels like a weak muscle. But it can be really helpful.

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[โ€“] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

When I was little, meditation was the buzz. I've tried it many times and I just found myself "sitting in style". Meditation is described as inspired by hypnosis but they never tell you what to do when you're from the small percentage of people immune to hypnosis.

[โ€“] heron@lemmy.world 6 points 1 year ago

I have no doubt some people struggle more than others to get to the point where they can sit back and watch. It wasn't immediately obvious to me either, but a couple of months of short daily practice enough to start seeing what the fuss was.

[โ€“] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I mean, mental illness is still going to exist, no matter how much power you give your mind.

[โ€“] heron@lemmy.world 14 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Mental illness is treatable, and being aware of the symptoms as they're happening is a major part of the treatment for many such illnesses.

[โ€“] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yeah, but that doesn't mean it completely goes away. Mental illness is the human equivalent of software issues, the very definition entails you can't be like Neo from the Matrix and seize one's own mind.

[โ€“] heron@lemmy.world 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm not understanding your comment. Mindfulness is paying close attention to the actual experiences in consciousness, as opposed to just being carried along by thoughts. It's not about taking control of your mind.

Oh. Yeah that makes sense then. The way you described it in your original comment made it seem like gnostic-esque advice.