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Lost my wife (34) to cancer last month and I haven't found any good resources to help me. How do you cope with their loss? Please remove if this isn't allowed.

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[–] Thafirton@reddthat.com 16 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I lost my husband almost 8 years ago and my best advice is to find support. Don't isolate yourself. For me, family and friends were there and available but I couldn't seem to open up to them. I found a Google chat group of widow(er)s that worked for me. Any time, day or night, I could text that group of people who understood this utterly un-understandable grief. They helped me not feel alone as I found my path through it.

Message me and I'll be happy to give you my contact info if you need someone to talk to.

[–] Sharpiemarker@feddit.de 5 points 1 year ago

Thank you for the advice. I've been on my own a lot, so when things get hard I tend to turtle in my shell until I can cope. My concern with grief groups is that I don't think I'll be able to cope with other people's grief currently. I had considered looking for a caregiver support group when my wife was in treatment, but I just expected it would be other people like myself who had no concept of how to get by and deal with the difficulties that I was also going through.