This "me and a pile of guns" mindset is slowly changing. Covid and civil unrest helped a lot of people from all walks of life start thinking about these things for the first time or with a needed dose of reality.

They are realizing that it's not one person or one family with guns, but your larger community with larger needs. You all will have to obtain food, water, medical supplies etc. Like it or not guns, related gear and associated skills are an important piece of the puzzle, but not the entire puzzle. If your community is doing well, it will be a tempting target for all kinds of reasons. Remember that at the very best your usual first responders will be very slow to respond.

It won't be fighting all the time, even full blown war involves a bunch of boredom. You'll be doing the hard work taking care of your needs. You'll probably have a pistol on you, and rifles+kit nearby to grab quickly if needed.