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Like most other people here, I originally came here from reddit. Ive been having a blast so far, and I much prefer the forum-style of this. After about a week of using Lemmy I realized there was something intrinsic to reddit that Lemmy doesnt have. And I wont miss it. Too many people on reddit were way too horny. I was really annoying, but Lemmy seems way more chill. Plus its refreshing knowing that the people on here arent all bots.

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[–] Veraticus@beehaw.org 46 points 1 year ago (7 children)

Especially as a gay guy, seeing massively upvoted posts of a woman holding basically anything (but she’s wearing a low-cut top!!!!!!) got pretty exhausting.

[–] Kovari@lemmy.ml 32 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

Trust me, as a hetero woman, I got so exhausted too. Reddit got so eye-roll-y within....less than 5 minutes sometimes that it made me just leave and go do something productive.

[–] SemioticStandard@lemmy.ml 16 points 1 year ago (4 children)

The Internet, sadly, has always been an awful place for women and minorities. I hope we can build a culture here where that kind of shit isn’t tolerated, and all (sans trolls, bigots, racists, and Nazis) are made to feel welcome and respected.

Except the Dutch. Fuck those guys.

[–] IDew@lemm.ee 3 points 1 year ago (2 children)

What the fuck have we dutchies done😂

[–] mobyduck648@beehaw.org 3 points 1 year ago

You burned all our ships that one time!

[–] SteveXVII@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)
[–] SteveXVII@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 year ago

What did I do to you?

[–] Foon@beehaw.org 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Is that a Better Off Ted reference? 😂

[–] SemioticStandard@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] Foon@beehaw.org 1 points 1 year ago

Oh right of course. BOT quotes Austin Powers, lol. Thanks :)

[–] plum@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 year ago

Same here. I put a lot of effort into carefully curating my subscribed list on Apollo - it definitely made the experience much more enjoyable.

[–] AlolanYoda@lemmy.world 13 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I mean, I'm a straight man and I would also find that annoying!

[–] FlanFlinger@lemmy.ml 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yeah, it started to spill over so subs like r/classiccars and r/dogpictures.

[–] PapaTorque@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

From the outside looking in car culture seems pretty full of that kind of thing anyway.

[–] FlanFlinger@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 year ago

Not so much the classic car sub, that was mostly folks arguing about what defines a classic car, or folks reminiscing about thier first cars.

[–] BeardedSingleMalt@beehaw.org 9 points 1 year ago

I'll never forgot how absolutely bonkers r/CablePorn went over this. Top posts all-time were of some truly gorgeous masterful cable-work in server rooms, colorful coordination, gore-to-porn jobs of jumbled mess to near works-of-art. Then some mildly attractive girl posts herself pointing to a comparatively meh small cabling setup it went into meltdown while also becoming one of the top posts at the time.

[–] bilb@lemmy.ml 8 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I'm gay too. I don't really understand what this post is about. Your complaint is seeing someone you're not attracted to? That can't be right. There has to be something I'm missing.

[–] flying_gerbil@beehaw.org 16 points 1 year ago (1 children)

At least for me, I feel the same way (despite liking women) because I disliked seeing something that was relatively low quality get upvoted purely because of sex appeal. Hell, there's even a whole sub dedicated to the idea that people just paid attention to the sex appeal, only to be surprised that the content itself was really cool

https://www.reddit.com/r/UNBGBBIIVCHIDCTIICBG/ Upvoted Not Because Girl, But Because It Is Very Cool; However, I Do Concede That I Initially Clicked Because Girl.

[–] kofe@lemmy.ml 7 points 1 year ago

I don't mind the initial posts but when the comments are all "nipples" or something it reinforces what I've told my partner: I hate going out in public knowing anyone could take a picture of me and find any reason to sexualize or harass me, just for existing:/

[–] rockettaco37@lemmy.world 7 points 1 year ago

As an asexual, that always was a bit uncomfortable. And don't even get me started on the bots always sending dms. Damn things never stopped. xD

[–] SQL_InjectMe@partizle.com 4 points 1 year ago

Or r/art just being naked women

[–] StrahdVonZarovich@beehaw.org 3 points 1 year ago

I remember finding a great subreddit called r/CharacterArt (or something like that). You could post character art mainly focused on dnd and other ttrpgs. I thought that was a great idea, and checked it out to find some cool art for my own Pathfinder game.

90% of the top post were women in revealing clothing.