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Is it too late to develop a social life in your mid 20s if you never had one prior? (slrpnk.net)

submitted 14 hours ago* (last edited 13 hours ago) by jerebear39@slrpnk.net to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I never had a social life, either romantic or platonic, and I'm wondering if anyone else has gone from 0 social life to an active one past college. Like I wasted college just going to classes and I graduated already. Thoughts?

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[–] ClassifiedPancake@discuss.tchncs.de 10 points 11 hours ago* (last edited 11 hours ago)

My 20s were complete garbage. I can't remember most of what happened there because nothing ever happened. At the end I didn't see any hope for myself and had some disturbing thoughts. But I've come around somehow and met my now best friends and many other nice people during my 30s. I owe them my life basically. Though I still have trouble finding romantic connection and I'm not trying anymore.

Where I meet people: At work, neighbors, hiking or board game groups

I think it's important to get out and meet many different people, even without ever becoming friends. You learn social skills, you have more things to talk about with others, you feel more accepted in general, it's a spiral upwards.