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My dad's always been an anti-intellectual prick but now he's a smug one having his worst impulses reinforced by assholes on the internet and his workplace.

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[–] blunder@hexbear.net 15 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I'm right there with you comrade cuddle

When my parents came down to visit last, my mom was in my house for all of 5 minutes before she decided to make a dumb joke about the saw blades on the river at the TX border because "dumb Mexicans". Then she asked my then 6 year old son if he had a girlfriend.

What do you do in these scenarios? I would seriously consider kicking them out; I have to fly to visit my parents and have changed my flights and left early because of comments like this. But I'm curious how others handle it.

[–] roux@hexbear.net 6 points 6 days ago (1 children)

For the racist joke, I just bluntly told her we don't do bigotry in this house. And when she asked my kid about a girlfriend, I bluntly asked her to not groom my kid lol. She acted like that was the offensive part so I replied with "He's fucking six years old. Ask him about Legos and Sonic."

[–] blunder@hexbear.net 3 points 5 days ago (1 children)

rat-salute-2

we don't do bigotry in this house

This would just be the start of a bitter argument with my folks... no way I would be allowed to call their speech bigotry (accurately) without some huge defensive rant about "I would never treat them any differently face to face", as if being two-faced is a virtue

[–] roux@hexbear.net 3 points 5 days ago

I'm extremely blunt to my mom. I have had my fair share of issues with her most of my adult life. So that and being in my house, I'm gonna set some rules out the gate. If they wanted to talk to me about disrespect, I can just kick them out of my house and tell them to have a fun drive back to Indiana from Texas. Waste of gas money to come all this way to be racist but it's their retirement che-smile