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English language practice groups would give you a boost on learning and a potential pool of people who might be friend candidates.
I second others' advice on friends first, not romance. Romantic relationships are friendships on super hard mode. Don't target romantic relationships if you haven't figured out friendships yet.
Also this:
... makes you sound like an incel sad sack. Stop it. Literally, stop right now and don't go down that road any further. There are few red flags that burn brighter than this sort of opinion. It will scare both potential romantic partners and friends off. If you are consuming incel/red pill media, stop before it fucks up your brain even more.
Seconding what this guy said about the incel mindset. There is nothing less attractive than selfpity and blaming others. Everyone knows life is hard and people suck. They want to be around people who haven't given up. It gives them more energy to keep trying.
That's the truth though, if you are "money" relationship and company will come. Tinder and others work better for rich assholes. It's ok to "give up" when the game is rigged
See, like this. Don't be like this.
My dude, you don't want those women, if you see too many of them on tinder then try something else. Even if it sucks and is hard. Throwing your hands in the air and giving up will get you nothing except exploited by people who want to take advantage of your anger.
No... And I'm not stupid I don't use those apps, they ask for too much money anyways