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Anon sees happy people (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 4 days ago by Early_To_Risa@sh.itjust.works to c/greentext@sh.itjust.works

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[–] medgremlin@midwest.social 1 points 3 days ago

I think it's important to consider who is on the other side of that conversation. If a woman rejects a guy, she does not owe him an explanation. She does not owe him "constructive criticism" and actionable things to work on because that is a monumental amount of emotional labor that is wholly unreasonable to demand of someone. This isn't even getting into the issue that many women feel unsafe about rejecting certain types of guys because there's a very reasonable fear that her "no" will just be ignored and she will become the target of assault or stalking.

Yes, someone needs to have serious, in-depth conversations with these young men, but the quiet part no one is saying is that that nebulous "someone" is implied to be the women that reject them. It is frankly disgusting to expect that emotional labor from someone who is explicitly trying to extract themselves from that relationship/interaction.