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im really surprised at how many people are saying no. i definitely would because i know exactly what im into and could do everything perfectly
Honestly, this makes it worse.
And these are just the first things to come to mind.
i don't have any interest in actual sex, just kinks which are sort of dependent on having two people. i really like getting tied up and beat up, and i can't do that on my own. what i call sex is just assault or torture to most outside observers, i don't even want any clothes to come off. i would expect to just take turns, it's not a big deal. if i'm hitting someone else, i'm always worrying about their limits and what they're ok with, but if it's me, i'd know exactly how far i can go, and it would be really fun in a non sexual way. already knowing everything is a good thing, the discovery isn't really fun for me. i'm usually not comfortable having sex with someone until i've known them for at least a year. definitely not demisexual or anything, i just need to know exactly what they'd want me to do.