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venting name struggles
I don't know what to do anymore. I have a name I go by, and it's not bad, but it's extremely similar to my dead name (one letter off). So, I tried to brainstorm many different names, see if I liked any of them. What usually happens is, I find a few a like, and I pick one of them that I think suits me. It reaches a point where it no longer suits me, so I pick a different name, and the cycle continues. I guess I should ask all of you how you got your names, but I have a feeling I already know how, and that just hasn't happened with me...I seem to be figuring most things out, and I'm glad I'm starting to feel better than I have in a long time. The name seems like such a minor thing, really, but my parents do have a point about having to choose something at some point
I change my social name regularly because I like to try on different identities (and for opsec reasons)
We like to think of names as rigid parts of our identities but personally I think that that’s not necessary and I quite enjoy different people calling me by different names. No idea if this helps you but maybe looking at names as more fluid might relieve some of the pressure of having to choose the perfect name?
extremely powerful, i love this
I really like the idea, especially being genderfluid. It would probably work much better for me to have multiple names to use in different environments, and they could even correlate with my different gender identities. The only issue with this approach is that something needs to be my legal name, and although I could choose a middle name to fit something extra in there, I struggle with that kind of permanence.
Legal names are another form of oppression we have to take into account sadly. I decided not to change my legal name unless at some point I find a name I want to have more permanently. But that’s not ideal if you don’t want to use your deadname wherever you need to give your legal name.
I still use my birthname (despite it being overwhelmingly used by guys) or change it by one letter in a way that doesn't effect pronunciation at all. Haven't even gotten to the point of finding another name I'd like to try out (but not really particularly interested in trying to find one either).
Good luck with finding one you that sticks!