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Their might just be a dialectical relationship between your hobby and lack of friends there comrade.
I’m looking into bouldering again but it’s having to commit to paying 130 a month which is a lot of money.
Yeah, there's no damn third spaces anywhere anymore. But for your health and well-being, that $130 a month might be well worth it.
I been doing that although I pay less. I gotta say I've met a lot of people that way at least In the gym, haven't really met up with them outside of it but I'm always talking to people and and meeting people there
My gym seems to be a completely non-social place. I've been going like 3-6 times a week for nearly 2 years and not one person has tried to strike up a conversation with me.
It sucks because it's like the one public place other than grocery shopping that I go regularly, is fun to go to, etc. But it seems either nobody goes there to socialize or I'm too unattractive for anyone to talk to me.
Climbing gym or regular gym? Bouldering -> very social. Any other gym -> least social thing ever.
If you' re bouldering it's so easy to strike up conversation with people who are working on the same problems as you.
Separately I can't really comment on how you look obviously. I do however think that like, pretty much everyone benefits from trying to dress well in clothes that fit you, keep your hair well kept, trim nails, etc. I see your pronouns so like, I also think, as a woman, looks are less important than general vibe and confidence. Being confident is important. I care more about how a man makes me feel than how they look
regular gym. why are they such un-social places? lol
Idk. Like, I barely look at anyone else in a regular gym. Everyone around me I see is listening to music and stuff. It just a very solo kinda thing unless you're doing some group activity
I remember watching a short documentary on outdoor bouldering in NYC. I don't remember which park but there was something to climb somewhere and the community was really cool.