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[–] lobut@lemmy.ca 39 points 3 weeks ago (4 children)

Same peeps that don't chill, message me every now and again that they're lonely.

Then decline every invitation I give them.

[–] GiveOver 11 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Posting memes about how it feels good to be invited, so you should still invite people who decline all the time. As if I enjoy getting turned down non-stop by "friends".

[–] Dozzi92@lemmy.world 19 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

Yeah, I've turned into the one who doesn't want to go out anymore, but I'm also going out tonight because I know the door swings both ways and that relationships don't maintain themselves. I think my friends get it, and I get it, and so we remain friends.

[–] prettybunnys@sh.itjust.works 10 points 3 weeks ago

Yeah, the fear they feel in between those two things is the reason for both

[–] UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world 6 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Christ, so much of this shit on social media. People need to recognize that when you show up to try and help out with depression and anxiety (because they went online begging for someone to help) its some emotional fucking labor, too. Like trying to pull someone onto a boat who is drowning, only for that person to keep shoving you away and insisting you're saving them wrong.

[–] lobut@lemmy.ca 4 points 3 weeks ago

Thank you.

It's tough on the other people around as well as that person. It's not that they don't care, it's that they don't know how to help and the negativity and stuff affects them too.

By the way, I say that as someone who's been clinically diagnosed and did six months as an inpatient.

[–] CanadianCarl@sh.itjust.works 5 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Did you ask them why? They might have a valid reason.

[–] Kusimulkku@lemm.ee 1 points 3 weeks ago

I can imagine a lot of people feeling like that's "pestering" them. "Jeez can't they just take no as an answer"