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Hi comrades, want to give you all an informal update on the discussions around the site's misogyny problems that've been happening over the last several days. I wanna make sure you know that the admin/mod team has seen all of that discourse and we've been actively discussing solutions in the matrix mod chat. We're taking this shit very seriously and acknowledge that we haven't used a heavy enough hand on misogynistic rhetoric. As some of you saw we nuked that cheating thread from a couple weeks ago and handed out temp bans to the most egregious offenders. Idk how that was allowed to run it's course but we apologize for that oversight. We're going to do better.

We've come up with some ideas for how to improve this part of the site culture and we want to get suggestions from y'all as well, since the alarm was sounded on this by our beautiful c/traa posters to begin with. Our ideas so far include:

  1. A zero-tolerance policy towards any even remotely misogynistic/patriarchal posts or comments, as too much has slipped through the cracks on that, establishing a clear protocol for bans for violating rules against misogyny, and ideally tracking repeat offenders in a way that makes deciding a course of action easy when they reoffend.

  2. Uphold TC69 thought by starting up a book club (and hopefully more to follow) on feminist theory and encouraging mass participation, particularly from the he/him's on the site. "The Will to Change" by bell hooks has been suggested by multiple people as a great starting point but please feel free to suggest any other works.

  3. Relaunching /c/menby with a trusted educated mod team and a specific focus on countering mainstream narratives about masculinity, relationships and sex that breed reactionary, patriarchal attitudes

  4. Encouraging [namely femme] participation in /c/womenby and taking steps to revitalize that sub as an excellent source of discussion on feminism and intersectionality

  5. Holding another mod drive to get more folks into mod positions in our communities who can help weed out reactionary attitudes

  6. Encouraging users to use the report button often on any post that seems even remotely sus, with the promise that no one's going to be punished for "report abuse" for reporting posts in obvious good faith

Please let me know your thoughts on the above or any other ideas you have for making the site better, safer and more inclusive for our femme comrades. Once we've fully hammered out plans and updated policy we plan to make an announcement post highlighting these changes for the whole userbase. Thank you all for being here and being who you are feminism trans-heart

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[โ€“] magi@hexbear.net 19 points 2 months ago (3 children)

Why not have a masc/femme com instead? And maybe a separate enby com for every enby? I can understand some of the logic but speaking for myself I have a real problem with binary boxes.. I also always engage with good faith here and I do try see the logic behind all posts.

anyways I always appreciate your posts in trans mega <3

As I've appreciated yours, you should post more btw ^^

[โ€“] iridaniotter@hexbear.net 9 points 2 months ago (4 children)

Femme refers to a type of lesbian but is now also being used by some to describe non-lesbian gender. Personally I'd rather not take a term already used by lesbians.

[โ€“] magi@hexbear.net 9 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

I do think names that aren't part of the binary are the way to go those were just off the top of my head going off presentation but something more fiiting would be good.

[โ€“] Dessa@hexbear.net 7 points 2 months ago

"Femme" has a long history in the trans community too, particularly "en femme," being used historically by part-timers when they wished to specify their expression for a given situation. E.G. "I went to the store en femme the other day."

But I do agree that in this specific scenario on hexbear, that "fem" with that spelling makes more sense.

[โ€“] Dessa@hexbear.net 6 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

I'd add that enby shpuld be explicitly allowed in any of these spaces since enby can include people who sometimes touch on the binary

[โ€“] magi@hexbear.net 7 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

Well as I've already stated I'm an agender non binary person and I agrree that people present however they wish. I present femme but I'm not a woman. I'm not calling for segregation I was speaking as someone who sits outside the binary. My suggestion was based on presentation and moving away from the descriptor for non binary people. I agree that the spaces should be for everyone but as I sit outside the binary I feel it excludes me in it's current naming scheme.