Transfem
A community for transfeminine people and experiences.
This is a supportive community for all transfeminine or questioning people. Anyone is welcome to participate in this community but disrupting the safety of this space for trans feminine people is unacceptable and will result in moderator action.
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Some helpful links:
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
- Gender Spectrum // Resources for youth, parents and family, educators, mental health professionals and faith leaders.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
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I'm 5'11" feet tall, USA, my personal style is very practical and not very feminine, and I shop almost exclusively online. It's more expensive, but it works for me for many reasons. I'm too busy to go shopping. But when I have, there's at least one supportive employee eager to help me.
I measure myself and compare those measurements to the Size Guide. Sometimes the measurements are still off, but I havent had trouble.
Sometimes I buy specifically from brands advertising Tall and Plus Size. In some garments, a Tall XL has been the perfect fit for me. For example, Overalls.
My basic outfit consists of High Waisted Jeans and a Scoop Neck T-shirt that is tucked into them. Lightly colored jeans, dark T-shirt.
I am never wearing clothing that is uncomfortable for me. I depend on a woven nylon belt to keep my jeans up, they are a bit loose.
I've watched a few videos about how to dress for trans fems. Nano Nano made one thats just 6 minutes, it was enough for me to get started.
As always, your mileage may vary.