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Ehm, yea? And why is that a problem? Some people need help occasionally
Yeah. I am highlighting that your personal experience in this regard is different from mine and vice versa.
This is a problem because, as I already said: when you give them a hand they want the arm.
In other words, they start expecting you to spend more and more of your time, labour, brainpower and/or resources, solving their problems, to their benefit, with no regards of that becoming or not a detriment for you.
It's specially egregious in cases where the person doesn't need the help, that they're asking for help just because it's nice to have it.
That's why, as I also said, it's important to impose some limits here and there. Plenty people do not know how to impose those limits, and as a result they are taken advantage of.
Is this clear now?
You are either very cynical or have had some very bad luck finding friends