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I want to add to this. I'm not a psychologist, but I have heard a couple times about the term "third place". It's this concept that most people have a "place where they live", a "place where they work", and then a "place where they socialize". It has been theorized that the modern working-age population is having trouble with stress and mental health in large part due to the dearth of "third places".
The "third place" can be, for example, a restaurant or bar that you frequent (think the pub from the TV show Cheers), a book club, a sports club, or, crucially, a church or place of worship.
For Christianity at least, knowing that you were going to see and socialize with the same group of people (who share at least 1 major interest in common with you) every Sunday is apparently quite good for mental health. So, although I am no proponent of certain Western religions in general, I do think their decline has contributed to some of the mental health crises. How much? I cannot say.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Third_place
That's a really good point. Lemmy has sort of become my Third Space and Reddit before that. I moved away from home for 5 years then moved back and then covid hit. I haven't had anyone to hang out and socialize with other than my wife and kids in a long time.
I used to be active in the kink community and we'd go to munches, which were really just a bunch of people united by a sort of bohemian stance towards sexuality getting together and talking about mostly anything else. Religion or secularism was mostly irrelevant. I really miss the kink community for that reason more than anything, you know, particularly deviant. But also being transgressive was fun, too.
Online just doesn't hit the same.