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which one do you prefer? having kids or no kids? and why?? (lemmy.world)

submitted 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) by hungrythirstyhorny@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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[–] JackbyDev@programming.dev 7 points 4 months ago (2 children)

Having no kids. I currently have no children and do not plan to. I am satisfied with my life. My only real concerns are about who would support me when I age. Not monetarily but just in case my mind starts to slip and I need someone to help me get the help I need. I don't feel comfortable having a child or adopting with that being the sole reason.

[–] PresidentCamacho@lemm.ee 5 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (1 children)

Never considered the who would support you in advanced age argument. But I live in the US and any children I have would end up as probably the poorest generation to ever exist in this country, so not them I suppose.

[–] JackbyDev@programming.dev 2 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Like I said, I view the financial aspect of my responsibility. It's more like I'd be worried about not really being able to make my own decisions and not having someone there to help me out. Someone to help pick what retirement home or elder care facility I end up in. Someone to check on me and make sure those places aren't doing elder abuse. That sort of stuff.

[–] megane_kun@lemm.ee 1 points 4 months ago (1 children)

I’d be worried about not really being able to make my own decisions and not having someone there to help me out.

I don't know about you, but I sure hope I'd be able to check out before that time comes for me. Before my mind and body becomes too feeble, I'd like to be able to just nope out.

[–] JackbyDev@programming.dev 2 points 4 months ago

I agree, but I also don't know if I'll have that opinion in the future...

[–] newbeni@lemmy.world 3 points 4 months ago

So, I have a few family members getting on in age and they are worried about the same thing. In one instance, they hired a house cleaner to come on once a week, just purley my happenstance, but she is able to let us know if said family member feels "a little off base"