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This is where internships during school help. You gain experience when your employer has few expectations of you. Even my first degree (2 year Associates) required a one semester internship as a degree requirement.

Close your eyes. Cast yourself into the future 10 years from now. You're 52. Your ex has her own life of some kind that you only intersect with on matters of your child. You yourself are in a relationship with your true soulmate. You smile when you see your child is looking at the world of early adulthood. You're content, and its the most wonderful feeling. Its a calmness that is safe and warmed by the love you have in your life. Its not the amazing thrill ride of extreme happiness (which eventually comes to an end), but instead an enduring feeling of "home" with your soulmate and your child that will last until the day you die. You remember life 10 years ago when your world felt like it was collapsing around you when you learned the true nature of your ex. You remember how hard it was to mourn that relationship, but how the actions you took afterward put yourself back together and ended up leading you to the content life you have today.

That is your future.

You have three tasks now:

1. Continue to be an amazing parent to your child
2. Mourn the relationship including the vision and woman she used to be to you. That person is gone. There is no resurrecting her. The person that remains today looks and sounds like her, but its not her. The person before you hurt you deeply. The person you knew would never do that, but she's gone forever now.
3. Find the path and get on it that leads you to the future I listed above. Become a whole person again, and be worthy of the love of your soulmate when you meet her.

I believe in you! You've got this! Now get to work making this a reality.

If they go forward with this, for the entire movie all of Gambit's dialogue should be subtitled and none of it audibly intelligible. All characters interacting with Gambit should understand him clearly except for one secondary character that can't NEVER understand Gambit is saying and this character doesn't understand how everyone else can understand Gambit so clearly all the time.

I can go to a cafe where I’m waited on and served decent food for $20.

How much do you tip on you cafe meal on top of that $20?

If feminists can’t figure out how to coexist with others, without turning everything into a battle, then they’re ultimately going to prove to the world that they have no business at all being anywhere near power.

If thats your logic, when are men going to apologize for WWI and WWII? How about an apology for the Holomodor? Are these the evidence you're using to show that men deserve to be in power?

Frankly, women have been given a great deal of autonomy in western civilization recently, and have set themselves to the task of burning everything down.

Oh? Which part of men's bodies are women given legal power to control?

BTW, I'm a dude, I'm just not deluded enough to think that my genitals make me smarter that people with other genitals.

Gen-X men got him elected.

Like all things Gen-X, there aren't enough of us for negative or positive change. In 2022 only 23% were Gen-X (down 3% from 2012), and assuming equal split on gender, that would be about 11.5% men, and I know for sure 100% of Gen-X men DID NOT vote for trump. For the sake of your argument lets say 70% of those men did thats only 8% of the vote. source

I don't think its a supportable statement to say that this specific 8% are the reason trump was elected without ignoring the other 45% of the electorate.

Donald Trump's promises are a solid as the water they're written on.

What specific traits or habits do people close to you recognize that would reveal an impostor trying to mimic you?

They ask me what specific things would reveal themselves when they mimic me. Thats probably a red flag.

Headline from the future:

"Displacing heart disease, the primary cause of death in the USA is now 'easily preventable disease'"

Thanks for doing the math but, Iowa? I’ve been to Iowa many times growing up and not a place I’d wanna live. But valid point that it is affordable there if you enjoy trump fascists

I was picking a lower priced state to show home ownership is possible for a single person in the USA. Luxuries or preferences wasn't in the equation.

This is where there isn't great translation when looking at macro numbers (like the chart that lists median house prices) and trying to apply that info to the micro numbers, like one specific person.

Even the median home listed here in Iowa at $204k doesn't mean thats the cheapest house. There are houses cheaper (and those that are more expensive), but the median represents a closer number when looking at large numbers of houses.

I’m “uneducated” and rapidly approaching 40 so my employment prospects are severely limited.

Its never too late to bolt on additional education. It can be a college degree, but it doesn't have to be. It can also be trade school or industry specific certification. I highly recommend looking at your options. I too was a non-traditional student and complete get my Associates degree until was in my early 30s and Bachelors just before 40. Having those let me leapfrog several income levels in a short time. Its not the degrees alone, but the other skills I (and probably you) have that wouldn't be considered without that degree. I now have trade school, college degrees, industrial certifications, and decades of experience. All of these together made employment very manageable.

I'd be happy to share my experience as a full time working adult and part time college student in their 30s if you want that. The short version is, being an undergrad college student as an adult is easy mode compared to doing it when you're right out of high school.

You're going to be 45 years old in the years ahead irrespective of what you do. Wouldn't you prefer to still have that "uneducated" status then or would you like that to be different?

Yeah literally nowhere is affordable for a single guy…

So taking Iowa as an example:

So total monthly payment (with insurance and taxes ) is $1770 or $21,240/year. The downpayment is needed, of course.

Rule of thumb says your housing shouldn't be more than 28% of your income.

So that would mean $75,857/year income to live comfortably. That would be $36/hour working full time.

That seems doable by a single guy. This is even with a very comfortable percent of only 28% going to housing. If you go to the uncomfortable 50% of income for housing that would bring down the required annual income to $42,480/year or about $20.50/hour.