girltwink

joined 1 year ago
[–] girltwink@lemmy.world 0 points 10 months ago

Not much of one in terms of percentage. I'm already making mid 6 figures.

[–] girltwink@lemmy.world 17 points 10 months ago (3 children)

I don't have any interest in getting promoted again. I was at my current job for 6 months when they promoted me to the last real IC level. The only thing i gain from here is more responsibility. All this is going to do is rot Amazon's culture as underperformers get promoted and excellent engineers become content to coast in the background.

[–] girltwink@lemmy.world 4 points 10 months ago

Based. Top4top is the most genuine and violent form of love.

[–] girltwink@lemmy.world 5 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

If i have a crush on any of my friends then i just sleep with them. My gf and i are ENM, and we talk about our friend crushes openly. But the truth is, I've got more of a desire to have friends who i don't have any sexual tension with recently. I've gotten a bit sad with people wanting more of my attention when i don't have any left to give. My gf and i meet each other's needs for physical intimacy pretty well. I mostly just want more masc bros to do bro stuff with.

[–] girltwink@lemmy.world 40 points 10 months ago (1 children)

She thinks it's hot

[–] girltwink@lemmy.world 35 points 10 months ago (11 children)

I like calling my trans gf a trap 😌

[–] girltwink@lemmy.world 8 points 10 months ago (2 children)

The only reason antibiotic resistant germs are different than regular germs is that antibiotics don't work on them, which doesn't matter if you don't use antibiotics! 😆

Her reasons are more vague and appeal-to-nature-y. But you do raise a good point.

[–] girltwink@lemmy.world 11 points 10 months ago

It's a precious gift. I look for the others who care too much and then hold them close 🥹

[–] girltwink@lemmy.world 26 points 10 months ago (11 children)

Relatable. I love a girl like this. It's exhausting and it's slowly impacted my own sanity, but it's not her fault. It's mainly about germs with her. She gets really upset if we don't wash our hands every 15 minutes or so. But at the same time, she's afraid of antibiotics.

[–] girltwink@lemmy.world 6 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I don't think you're understanding my point. Trans-ness is, for me, defined by gender dysphoria. Gender dysphoria, by its very definition, is the pain i experience by not looking like a cis woman. Visibility is not a thing i want to celebrate. Visibility is the affliction.

Can everyone be stealth? No, absolutely not, and being trans should be normalized. But i still feel very uncomfortable with my debilitating endocrine disorder being used as a point of pride, in the same way gay pride is.

I'm gay, and I'm out and proud of that. I love being visibly gay. But being trans is different because it's not a thing i want to be.

[–] girltwink@lemmy.world 6 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (4 children)

So that trans youth growing up see trans adults in their community

When i was a teenager back in the early 00s, i went to a trans support group. It largely consisted of older transitioners, age 50+, who were not living good lives, through no fault of their own. But it was a very dark experience for me. I expected that my life would play out like theirs, and i would join the 41% club. I never thought that I'd get to experience just being a regular girl, and that part still seems surreal a decade later.

This is a common experience for young trans people seeking support. This is "trans visibility" and it harmed me profoundly. What would've been really nice back then were successful role models who make their trans-ness an incidental detail. We have those now, and they're not what I'd call "visible" to cis people, although they don't hide who they are.

so that trans adults see older trans people.

I'm still waiting to find older rolemodels. Most of us are really sad when we get older. I don't know how similar this is to the general lgbt population, but I'm concerned. My goal is to build a little family, and then just live a quiet life and keep each other close.

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