And realistically today, advocating for a stay at home parent is telling women to go back to the kitchen. It's regressive, unnecessary, and not actionable advice.
No, what YOU said is regressive. The commenter never mentioned women; men can just as easily be house spouses, and that's also without mentioning non-binary partners. You just assumed they meant women and ran with it
Edit: grammar
Can you make a point without a straw man? I said nothing of the sort.
And I don't disagree with your point about daycare; I think people need options, but I disagree with your point about online relationships being dopamine-equivalent to "real" relationships, personally. I'd LOVE to have a family but I have neither the space nor the money to have kids.
Personally I think communal child raising should be more normalized; I think children experiencing many different and at times contradictory viewpoints is good for their development of critical thinking. But I don't presume to fully know the solution to lose birth rates. I DO however claim that whatever financial incentives are being given, they aren't enough.