"white collar" or "clean" bigotry is still bigotry. Someone doesn't need to shout slurs at every possible moment to spread hate and attack people's identitie s or rights to exist.
Bigotry does not need to be tolerated full stop. It doesn't matter how much someone dresses it up to appear palatable or how much someone claims they're "just asking questions/just want a respectful debate" when the topic is someone's immutable identity and right to medical treatment.
Sure bud whatever helps you cope.