Go to your instance settings (in your case https://lemmyonline.com/admin), change "Federation worker count", double or triple it. Then make sure that "Federation enabled" is checked. Double check that your system date is accurate (I'm serious. On a modern system, just do timedatectl set-ntp true
).
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