For a long time I didn’t feel like I was really part of the community. I’m bisexual and have had relationships with other women in the past but I’m married to a man now. I’ve found people in the community who say I’m not really a part of it so I’ve been really hesitant until recently to even try to participate.
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biphobia sucks, I'm really sorry people told u that
You're definitely still part of the community, haha. Liking same or other genders doesn't change any of that. Getting married to someone doesn't change that. Even though I'm dating a guy, that doesn't mean I don't still think some women are attractive. Etc etc. You are perfect as you are, and I say that as a fellow bi person 🏳️🌈
Thank you! It feels really good to hear that and I’m excited to be more active in the community. 💜
Yall can be a bit annoying a little weird, but I guess you're alright
Pros - I am attracted to everybody
Cons - nobody is still attracted to me
Yeah. Even with all the bullshit trans and queer people face I am much happier being myself. Wouldn't trade it for anything. It helps that I live in a queer positive city in a US state without pushes for anti trans legislation, certainly. But whenever I feel depressed about fascists making life harder for people like me I can always reach out to my partner and my found family for support.
closeted but I thank god every day I'm bi regardless. genderwise I guess I'd rather not be nb but it is what it is 🤷. I'm more or less okay with what I am.
I do. Joy in my queerness and transness is radical and i refuse to get down by the chuds hating on us. We gotta fight but we need the love to be able to fight too
Back when I was Christian, I hated what I was. I spent my youth "praying the gay away" and all that. As a result, I suffered from depression and anxiety pretty much straight out of the womb.
Then I came out, was ostracized by my Christian family, and everything I was afraid of happening happened.
But you know what? I ended up finding a new family who loves and supported who I am. I married a wonderful woman who loves me in all my trans masc non-binary, bisexual confusion.
I realized that what I hated wasn't my being queer, what I hated was that my family would never love me unconditionally. Now I love who I am and I honestly feel happier than I ever did performing the cis straight dance.
I mean it's who I am, but the current political climate definitely makes things a bit difficult.
Exactly! The world is easier not being, but it's who I am, and I'm not mad about that.
I'm not even queer but I love y'all and the safe spaces you create <3
I'm not a very social person so for me the worst part is feeling left out of the community. I'm very happy to be queer. But I also live in a place where I don't always feel comfortable being visible - those experiences make me hate my surroundings, not my identity.
It's nice being a part of a community that accepts me for who I am.
I grew up in a very rural very conservative area with a very conservative father so accepting who I was was something I had to work towards.
And just being able to be me with a community is so nice, some members of the community don't like me (I'm bi, so there's biphobia to deal with from the community) but in general the community is very welcoming.
I'm happy and take pride in being openly trans. None of my issues are in being trans, only with the people and systems that make it difficult and painful. I have to see them as separate things so that I don't internalize the way being a trans person is treated as being transgender in itself.
Otherwise I'll be even more angry and bitter than I already am most days, and I'm truly trying to not be as much.
Always grieving for younger me and wondering what could have been but I love me now and I'm so excited for that this younger generation has so much support and is expressing themselves in all the ways I wish I could have. It's a beautiful things.
It's interesting being a recovering country gay because I've made a lot of lesbian and non binary friends but i still want to do the dating/bf experience :(
As a fellow "recovering country gay" I feel that
Early on people were really put off by me, but I've always tried to be open to new ideas about the queer community.
Shit I didn't even know what bi was until I about 16 (It was always "straight or gay" growing up) and once I learned what it was I knew that's what I was.
Though the specifics of my sexuality would come into clarity the more I learned about the community.
I like being ace. It does suck that in my home country, most people think that asexuality doesn't exist.
I don’t mind, mostly. There were days when I was wondering whether „life“ would be easier if I was hetero but realized that this question does not make any sense. Plus, I met so many lovely people and had a great time – it’s all worth it.
Well, life might be easier in the sense of not having randos raise eyebrows, wanting explanations, putting up barriers to basic, universal human rights. But as a (boomer) lesbian, I'm only too happy not to be dealing with social expectations about gender role restrictions in a conventional marriage.
Oh yes, I'm looking at this question from my very privileged point of view, obviously, since I do not need to be afraid because of my sexual orientation. Even at work everyone (seemed to have) accepted it or simply does not care. And raised eyebrows, well, they simply do not do it while I am around. There are a few people that are surprisingly cold to me and I wonder whether it's because of this, but in the end I just don't care.