That means that you are probably around 14 years old.
Rule of thumb: don't smack bottoms without consent. Goes either way
this post was submitted on 05 Oct 2023
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I'm gonna make a guess you're in school?
In that context, probably she wanted to get a reaction out of you. It could be that she is a bully, but if she is someone you get along with, or a friend, she may think you're interesting and want to see your reaction.
It sounds silly, but sometimes people pinch or poke people they like, just you see them react.
She probably wasn't expecting you to spank her back, but she was the first to spank, so your retaliation was understandable.
If it continues and she keeps spanking you, and you don't want her too, you should ask her to stop, and if she keeps it up, report her.
It means she doesn't want it but it is odd she spanked you randomly assuming she didn't even ask if you want it
"How can she slap?!"
Then why she spank as first?
@banana_meccanica@feddit.it Not sure what answer you expect me to say as I don't know her and just some random stranger on the internet at best
Whatever the reason, it's wasn't alright but that doesn't mean you do it back
I ask in a genuine way, what this mean? It's just a bully approce? Do I need to considered myself bullied or it is a sexual thing and she is attracted and want my sexual attention? I don't wanna be bullied as I don't want ignore an interest.
Humans can do similar actions for dissimilar reasons.
There are a myriad of context clues used in devining others' motivations. I'm sorry to say, here there is not, and is not likely to be, enough information to come to a reasonable conclusion in this instance.
Either motivation you ask about could apply, or none of them.
If you really want to get to the truth, I suggest having an open and frank conversation with the girl. Be willing to listen to what she has to say without contention. Take her words, think on them, and make your own conclusions as to their veracity.
As others have pointed out, consent should precede spanking. Your (re)actions are yours. Look into yourself to figure out why you are willing to act without consent, and if that is something you would like to change about yourself.
She sexually assaulted you. Spanking back probably wasn't the right response, but reporting her and calling her out for it would be.
I think you're assuming a scenario here that is very likely not to be the case
He literally said he was spanked on the butt without his consent. No assumptions were made here period.
This is the reason why male sexual assault isn't taken seriously, and why male victims have even less recourse then female victims. Anytime a man is assaulted, it's always brushed off as 'it's not a big deal' or 'it doesn't count cause she's a girl' or 'man up and just take it', often by other men. It's as if consent stops mattering if you have a penis or are male identifying.
Imagine if the genders were reversed and how outraged you would be. As a woman who has had this exact thing done to me before, I know. It's not a matter of how much it hurts to be spanked, it's a matter of losing your agency over your own body and feeling like a piece of meat.
Additionally, if it wasn't on his ass it'd still be battery. Sexual assault is pretty clearly defined to include slapping someone's ass and, just generally, don't touch other people.
They didn't even say that they are a man.They didn't say how hard, didn't say if they knows her or what the context was. Didn't say where this happened or why she did it. This could've been a playful/flirtatious thing. It could've been two people who have been friends for years. It could've been a random stranger in the street. It could've been a brand new work colleague. I understand where you're coming from, but I think that this particular one is too ambiguous to call
Maybe go ask her? Like, "hey, what was that all about?" And see what she says.
You may never know....
She likes you.
How much are you sure about it? Because I don't really feeling