Ok story time.
I played a set with my band at a house show the other night, and had a great time. Afterwards this woman comes up to talk with me and compliment my set. We have several drinks together, dance to the next bands songs and talk.
This person is extremely straight presenting, and yet even i can tell I'm being flirted with. I figure that she is quite attractive and I'm enjoying her company, so I guess I'll give it a chance. Night ends, we exchange numbers...
And she gets into a company truck of a local rapacious logging company to drunk drive home!
Right after I asked my wife to marry me she accepted a new job with a police department. Then she upheld truth and justice while in the lion's den for more than a decade.
When I asked my wife to marry me I was trying to fill the hole in my heart with booze. Soon after she said yes I had the strength to stop.
I think you should give yourself a chance to understand why she's choosing her what.