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There's so much doom on social media right now. The environment is collapsing. The economy will crash. Civil rights are ending. Democracy is dead.

What keeps you going? Why do you still get up and go do what needs to be done when the world seems to be ending around us?

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[–] beliquititious@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 18 minutes ago

Touching grass. It's important to remember that the entire world isn't online and the world isn't as dire as all of us chronically online doomers would have you believe. Things are chaotic-shift-in-the-status-quo bad, not civilization-ending bad.

The wheel turns, right now it's in a muddy rut and the people on the bottom (sexually active women, people of colors, and the queer community) are drowning, but all the little people on the outer edge are eventually in the dirt. Fuck the world, fuck the country, the people you have personal relationships with are the only thing that matters because all we have is each other.

Personally I have been trying to be more proactive, which has helped me have a sense of agency amidst the chaos. Everything I own fits in my car in case I need to leave quickly because of a climate disaster or the legalization of hunting trans people. I haven't bought a new thing (used, diy, or do without only) since lockdown because it's significantly cheaper and makes me feel like I'm doing my part to fight final form capitalism. I've also been exploring alternate ways to support myself and live that are more sustainable.

[–] chiliedogg@lemmy.world 2 points 56 minutes ago

Jack Smith dropped the charges without prejudice so they can be re-filed the second he leaves office.

[–] Drusas@fedia.io 3 points 3 hours ago (2 children)

My dogs. I stagger their ages so that I'll always have at least one and thus would feel too guilty to ever kill myself.

[–] krelvar@lemmy.world 1 points 1 hour ago

Ours are 11, 7, and 3.

[–] Mediocre_Bard@lemmy.world 1 points 3 hours ago

Nice. Mines about 3. Would you wait until 5 for a new one?

[–] GreenKnight23@lemmy.world 0 points 1 hour ago

I have to provide for my family. they must survive because without them, I am nothing.

And nothing is more dangerous than a person with nothing to lose.

[–] Corno@lemm.ee 1 points 2 hours ago

My friends, family, drawing, having a nice home to live in, good food and fun stuff to do ❤️ I try and avoid negativity by searching for things I'm interested in to engage with, such as art, nature photography, cat photos, and videogames. Some websites let you tailor your feed to your liking!

[–] iamjackflack@lemm.ee 6 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

Donald Trump will die (don’t care if from natural causes or not) at some point in the near future. Just want to be alive to celebrate.

[–] card797@champserver.net 5 points 4 hours ago (2 children)

Reasons you can get banned permanently from reddit for $1000.

[–] GreenKnight23@lemmy.world 1 points 1 hour ago (1 children)

I want to watch him die. just to make sure the piece of shit is actually dead.

got my hopes up when covid got him. fat greasy mcdoublefuck still pulled through.

I thought I was devastated then.

[–] beliquititious@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 14 minutes ago

Look, I am as heartbroken as anyone that the two crazies that tried, missed (or never got a shot off). But that's something else. If you're not trolling, you should probably talk to a mental health professional about those feelings.

[–] Coreidan@lemmy.world 6 points 3 hours ago

Good thing this isn’t Reddit then

[–] mke_geek@lemm.ee 5 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

I keep hoping that everything is exaggerated and it won't be that bad. That he'll be out in 4 years and not become a dictator with no more term limits.

[–] beliquititious@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 11 minutes ago

If it helps, humans are really really really really really bad at predicting the future. We don't know what's going to happen until it does and even then knowing how that changes what comes after is still unknowable.

For example many of the promises Agent Orange made on the campaign trail would have disastrous consequences for everyone, which might be enough to shift the balance back by the midterms.

[–] rowinxavier@lemmy.world 3 points 4 hours ago

I work in disability support. Some of the kids I am working with have gone over the last year from non speaking to using sign and are making real meaningful progress in their self care skills. They can keep going in the face of difficult times, so my problems don't seem so hard.

Also, in Australia we have the NDIS, a system for funding disability supports in a socialised manner without restricting what options someone uses too much. While all governmental systems (or any systems with money) are susceptible to grift progress is being made on catching fraudsters and prosecuting them while also closing the loopholes they exploit. The NDIS will be around for a long time to come and will help Australians with disabilities determine their own futures and make them a reality. There are problems with it but honestly it has been a game changer and I think it is a model for the rest of the world to aspire to.

[–] Sir_Kevin@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 6 hours ago

I'm sticking around to witness the collapse, in the hopes things go full mad max. Because that would be a better existence than the one I'm currently living in.

I'm not sure if I'm half joking or being entirely serious.

[–] halcyonloon@midwest.social 3 points 5 hours ago

I don't know what will happen. It is as much a curse as it is a blessing. Uncertainty is uncomfortable for me, but that very same uncertainty is why I keep going.

[–] ch00f@lemmy.world 14 points 8 hours ago* (last edited 5 hours ago) (1 children)

Over the past few weeks, I realized that I wasn’t reading the news to “stay informed,” I was reading it because I was bored. As a form of entertainment, it’s pretty awful. 99% of what I read will have no direct impact on me or my family, and just sitting there and worrying about it without doing anything to fix it serves nobody.

Also, I’ve learned to be skeptical of basically every headline good or bad. I saw a headline this week about how upset Trump supporters were with his cabinet picks. Comments in the thread were talking about leopards eating faces. The article was a collection of 8 tweets from supporters showing disapproval.

This news site was just preying on people’s hopes and making a story out of absolutely nothing.

So I started focusing on some personal hobbies and have tried to re-teach myself how to focus by reading some long form fiction.

[–] NineMileTower@lemmy.world 6 points 8 hours ago

This is so true. MY eyes are now a commodity and I'm going to choose who gets them more wisely.

[–] BlackRing@midwest.social 4 points 6 hours ago (1 children)
[–] card797@champserver.net 4 points 4 hours ago (1 children)
[–] jerkface@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 hour ago

lol "maybe she's born with it"

[–] bear@lemmynsfw.com 9 points 9 hours ago

Easy. The world isn't ending. Ignore the doomers. Problem solved.

[–] Carrolade@lemmy.world 15 points 10 hours ago

Study of history.

People have been prophesying the end times for millennia now, for this reason or that reason. I think that ultimately they just don't like the basic fact that change of some sort or another is inevitable in the world, it will not remain static and no system or institution will last forever. This does not result in any concrete end, however.

To quote Morpheus, "I remember that I am here not because of the path that lies before me, but because of the path that lies behind me."

There's also a fair bit of profit-driven exaggeration in just how bad things really are in certain arenas. Bad news makes good clickbait, good/neutral news less so. So the ratio of bad to good news we receive is not actually representative of the full picture of what is happening in the world.

[–] katkit@lemmy.world 4 points 7 hours ago

Personally, I turn to activism. I realized that regardless of how horrible the future will be, there's good to do in this world.

The world is full of people who are as scared as you and I are. I can make their lives a tad more positive.

The environment is collapsing? Educate and organise, think about how to build mutual aid systems and how to sustain yourself small scale.

The economy will crash? Help others, people who got thrown to the curb by the social system, homeless people, orphans,...

Civil rights are ending? I'm trans and scared. And there's so many other trans children that are counting on me to be the representation that I wish would have had when I was their age. I'm not going down without a fight.

Democracy is ending? Let's focus on preserving what we can and try to rebuild. It won't be over forever.

People being nice to and helping me often makes my day in an otherwise miserable time.I want to be that person for others.

[–] slazer2au@lemmy.world 27 points 11 hours ago (2 children)

By avoiding social media and living my life through memes and video games.

[–] ReanuKeeves@lemm.ee 14 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

There is a theory that natural human psychology wasn't made to handle all of the world's atrocities. People experience a "bad news burnout" because some of us constantly feel disappointed in humans as a race by hearing/seeing sociopathic behavior on an international level every day.

[–] NineMileTower@lemmy.world 7 points 11 hours ago (3 children)

I think I just hit that wall. This thread is fucking depressing. There's happiness and hope out there, but it seems you won't find it on social media, I guess. Negativity bias seems more prevalent on Lemmy than others.

[–] ReanuKeeves@lemm.ee 5 points 10 hours ago* (last edited 10 hours ago)

There's a reason why it's common for people to occasionally want to camp out in the middle of nowhere with no technology for a bit. If I read about some horrible news like a grandma getting shot picking olives on her own land I try to follow it up with something more lighthearted such as kittens hugging puppies. Like eating pickled ginger as a pallette cleanser between sushi.

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[–] remon@ani.social 21 points 11 hours ago* (last edited 11 hours ago) (1 children)

Running on hope isn't sustainable in this world, you gotta run on spite!

[–] GardenVarietyAnxiety@lemmy.world 5 points 10 hours ago

I think you just helped me realize what's keeping me going...

[–] sexy_peach@feddit.org 1 points 5 hours ago

There is this video that reminds me that there is no natural law that determines that things will only get better. Yet we have to find purpose. I am not hopeful, but I am happy for everyone that tries to do the right thing. We're in this together even if everything goes to shit.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iJaE_BvLK6U

[–] aasatru@kbin.earth 13 points 11 hours ago (2 children)

There's still a bunch of kindness around. There's good food to be eaten and culture to be consumed. There's drinks to be had and friends to be made. Dances to learn and skills to master.

There's a lot of things to be hopeful about, aside from the whole everything going to shit thing. And if you can brighten up people's lives by doing it, you might even contribute to the world going slightly less to shit.

I think it's time to recalibrate and focus more on the closer things. Doesn't mean one should ignore the world, but we're not fixing it by stressing out, doom-scrolling, and posting about it online either. We tried.

[–] Ketram@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 11 hours ago

I agree. The thing that keeps me going is the idea of finding community again.

Not sure how many people in this thread are American, but we have a very independent point of view. The "optimal" way of living is leaving your parents, leaving your home, and building a new home somewhere else. We tend to be more independent overall and less likely to look to others for comfort, to our detriment. At least, that has been my experience.

So I think the best thing to do is go out there, find a community that DOES care. Because they DO exist. Look for hobby classes, look for new friends in your interests, look for a church (if that is your thing. I am UU so the people at those churches are often some of the nicest, most leftist people around).

I'm moving soon, and I think the thing that keeps me going is the idea of finding new community after I move. You can also affect meaningful change as a community when you can't do it alone.

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[–] jerkface@lemmy.ca 4 points 9 hours ago

Oh I gave up like 15 years ago.

[–] Peter_Arbeitslos@feddit.org 4 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

In general, humanity (at least in Europe?) developed positively over the past few centuries. There were of course setbacks, but they didn't last too long and sometimes even lead to great progress. Nevertheless we must fight for progress and shouldn't give up just because the world once again seems to get even worse. Even more important when it comes to problems we have just a tiny period of time to fight against like climate change, we need to act now and can't waste ten years being (ruled by) facists.

[–] Anticorp@lemmy.world 3 points 8 hours ago

That's the crazy thing about all these echo chambers online. Everyone sits around convincing themselves that life is worse than it has ever been, when in reality it's better in almost every way than it ever has been. Through constant struggle, our ancestors built us a world that is vastly easier to live in than ever before, yet many of us look at what is still left to improve and instead of facing that challenge, just complain loudly about the injustice of it all.

[–] Sahi@lemmy.world 7 points 11 hours ago (2 children)

What keeps you going? Why do you still get up and go do what needs to be done when the world seems to be ending around us? For me it's my family , my own goal like playing gta 6 (even I don't think I will play) but for me big reason I have friends I like to talk with them and enjoy with them. Because nobody like loneliness even iam introvert guy I still like to share my thoughts with others and knowing thier thoughts.i think it's enough for me keep going .I wanna suggest you to search about absurdism or watch the movie everything everywhere all at once .

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[–] satanmat@lemmy.world 4 points 9 hours ago

My dog can’t feed herself. My family seems to like having me around.

Get off of social media. Other than here I really keep my news to computer stuff that interests me

[–] sharkfucker420@lemmy.ml 3 points 9 hours ago

My partner and her cat

[–] Anticorp@lemmy.world 2 points 8 hours ago

Stop caring and all of the problems go away, as if by magic. The amount of emotional energy that people put into issues that they're unlikely to ever face is unbelievably wasteful.

[–] swordgeek@lemmy.ca 4 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

I have a teenage son - a wonderful kid who keeps me going.

Not sure what I'm going to do in my dead marriage after he moves out.

[–] aasatru@kbin.earth 3 points 8 hours ago

Having children leave the house is a re-defining moment, just like establishing a family in the first place. It's scary, but it comes with all kinds of possibilities as well.

It sounds like you did a good job on reinventing yourself as a parent, of course trusting your judgment that your kid is indeed wonderful. But the fact that you love him enough that it keeps you going probably counts as further evidence that you're not doing so bad.

You'll manage to reinvent yourself again. And if you can't do it in your marriage, there's no shame in doing it outside it.

[–] urheber@discuss.tchncs.de 6 points 11 hours ago

Keeps me going? drugs and food. Life right now is just like a zombie from 6:00-15:00, and later From 15:00-3:00 life can feel good in rare occasions.

[–] Nougat@fedia.io 3 points 9 hours ago

Strike that. Reverse it.

My lack of motivation prevents me from ending it all.

[–] Steve@communick.news 5 points 11 hours ago

The alternative seems really boring.

[–] IDKWhatUsernametoPutHereLolol@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 11 hours ago* (last edited 11 hours ago) (2 children)

Fear of death.

Like its either nothing. Which is in itself terrifying.

Or there could be reincarnation, which is even more terrifying. Imagine being reborn in North Korea. Or if time isn't linear, imagine being some enslaved person in the dark ages.

Or being born in some universe that paranormal stuff are real. And evil creatures chase you all the time.

Or being in a dystopian futuristic world where every newborn is implanted with a mindcontrol chip.

Like nobody knows what happens.

Thats the only reason I haven't killed myself.

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