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Menopause

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'Menopause isn't really that bad'...said no woman ever.

For those who are approaching or experiencing 'the change' (think reverse puberty), a time where hormone levels decline either through the aging process or by medical/surgical means.

Menopause and Perimenopause (the transitional time before Menopause) are unique to every person, and while there's no one-size fits all, we support each other on this roller coaster ride of wacked out hormones, absurd mood swings and random sweaty hot flashes.

Be kind. Be respectful. We are all in this together!


Menopause Wiki


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1. All genders can post We are all here to learn about menopause and how to help anyone experiencing menopause, so be supportive and respectful.

2. Don't be a bully, creep, jerk or troll This means no personal attacks, no misogyny, no misandry, ageism, racism, or otherwise hateful or disrespectful commentary.

3. Read the Wiki and use the search tool before posting a new question

4. No selling products or services You can recommend products/methods that work for you, but soliciting clients or patients is not allowed. No advertising or self-promotions, including using this sub to drive traffic elsewhere.

5. Research surveys/studies are allowed ONLY after contacting the mods with details of the survey (purpose of survey, academic associations, how will the data be used, privacy/confidentiality policy) Mods will determine whether to approve the post or not. Those choosing to participate in surveys, must do so at their own risk.

6. No posting lab results We are not a substitute for medical advice. Questions about your lab results should be directed to your medical professional. Hormonal tests are not an accurate diagnosing tool for perimenopause.

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2nd Update: Some well-known Lemmy servers are under heavy load from the reddit exodus. New users are encouraged to sign up at one of the following general interest Lemmy instead (in no particular order):

Most Lemmy servers are federated (linked together), so you can easily subscribe and participate here regardless of which Lemmy server you call home.

Welcome!

Hey everyone from reddit, welcome to our Menopause group! It's going to be a bit of an adjustment, but we are resilient, (we are after all, menopause folk) and we will endure!

Over the coming days, as we learn this new platform, we will be updating information as much as we can. Thanks for your patience.

To answer some of the more frequently asked questions:

  1. Lemmy is a decentralized, reddit-like platform that is open source (free as in freedom)
  2. Lemmy servers, called instances, can be hosted by anyone, so no single person or entity is in control of our communities
  3. There are many instances to choose from; see the top of this post for the latest servers that are accepting new users
  4. Most Lemmy instances are linked together, sharing communities under one collective umbrella
  5. You can create an account at nearly any Lemmy instance, including those mentioned above, and you will be able to participate in the communities hosted by other Lemmy instances as if they were all part of one big community
  6. Lemmy is part of the fediverse, a collection of open and decentralized social network platforms; Mastadon, a twitter-like microblogging platform that recently made international headlines is also part of the fediverse

For mobile users:

  1. The official Android app for Lemmy is Jerboa (jer-BO-uh) which can be found on the Play Store or F-Droid.
  2. The official iOS app for Lemmy is Mlem; it is currently in beta so you'll need to install Apple's TestFlight and then open this link on your phone

As thousands, or perhaps millions of users are currently transitioning to Lemmy all at once, please be patient and remain open-minded to new experiences. Nobody could anticipate such a massive migration of users all at once, and many Lemmy instances are under heavy load at the moment. These are exciting times however, as we embrace a truly free and publicly-owned social network.

Over the next couple of days we will do our best to answer your questions and provide support here. Like Reddit, Lemmy is a collection of many communities. Feel free to stretch your legs and have a look around!

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[–] leftylibra@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)
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[–] FritaBurgerhead@lemmy.world 11 points 1 year ago

Reddit refugee checking in! This was honestly the only sub I was panicked about losing. THANK MAUDE (and Mods, lol) we are gathering here. Hugs!

[–] knitapease@lemmy.world 8 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (4 children)

Hey y'all!!! Am I really going to completely delete my reddit account now? I think maybe I am! If r/dundermifflin shows up I'm going to be golden.

EDIT: OH LORD I MISSPELLED MY OWN USER NAME WHEN I SIGNED UP!!! That's hilarious and I am totally knitapease now. A whole new woman. LOL!!

[–] Aviandelight@lemmy.world 6 points 1 year ago

It's perfect as is I say lean into it with everything you've got 😉

[–] drinksa_vodka_drink@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Haha that's great! You can change your display name without making a new account. Just go under settings.

[–] knitapease@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

Yeah OK after thinking about it overnight I did need to change it after all :P

[–] leftylibra@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

Hahah knitapease! I love it...but you can always create a new one and easily delete this one. Otherwise, I think it's great :)

[–] shybookworm@lemmy.world 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Reddit refuge here as well and very glad for this space too. It took me a couple days to work through getting set up here now its going decently and I'm so excited to be here with everyone else!

[–] leftylibra@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

Glad you made it!

[–] drivingbythesun@lemmy.world 6 points 1 year ago

Glad to be here. I was mostly a lurker over there, but I’m really liking this place. This was one of the more useful subs I visited so I’m glad you are now over here.

[–] MagpieRhymes@lemmy.world 6 points 1 year ago

Welp, here I am trying to quit Reddit cold turkey (at least for the 48 hour blackout). I do appreciate you creating an alternative for us, @leftylibra!

Here! Thanks for setting it up @leftylibra!

[–] bananaphone@lemmy.world 6 points 1 year ago

It's great to be here with you all!

[–] mlssac@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] leftylibra@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

You bet! If you haven't yet, you can subscribe as follows:

If you are accessing this site from your desktop browser, the subscribe button is the very top right of the sidebar (big green button that says subscribe). If you are accessing it through the Jerboa app, select the bullet list icon (in the bottom left of the toolbar) and enter “menopause” into the search field. Select menopause from the results and press the big blue subscribe button at the top

[–] rosemarycharles@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Holy Cow!!! I found the party! I thought I’d lost you guys forever ❤️ Shew.

[–] leftylibra@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

welcome welcome!!!

So happy to find you here!!! Yay!!!

[–] oocdc2@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago

Took a minute, but finally here! Thank you for setting this up.

[–] shybookworm@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I have two respectful questions. Is the meno subbredit gone for good? It's not turning up in searches on reddit. Has the board and community moved here permanently?

[–] leftylibra@lemmy.world 8 points 1 year ago (2 children)

All I can say at this time, is that we have joined the other 5,000+ subreddits in protest. We are here to provide continued support to our community, and we strongly believe that having a platform unaffected by corporate interests will serve everyone better in the long haul.

Lemmy may be rough around the edges now, but so was reddit in its early days for those of us who remember it. The apps and website will only get better as more and more people come on board!

[–] femmerockstar@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago

Hey, any chance we can reopen the sub long enough to retrieve our saved posts? I had a catalog of saved posts that contained dosage info, charts, publication links and product links that I referred to all the time - all of those are gone and I'd love to be able to copy them to save for reading off-reddit.

[–] shybookworm@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

I understand and I'm in support of the blackout as well. I was just confused on why I couldn't even find the menopause board to check if there were any updates there, as I had seen none here about the board being removed completely. I appreciate your response and glad for the info about thus too.

[–] Faeillus@beehaw.org 4 points 1 year ago

Generally hopeless at working out this newfangled technological shizz, but seem to be bumbling on in an okay fashion... Woohoo! Made it! Thank you for bringing over our community xx

[–] aenea@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago

Thanks so much for getting this set up so quickly!

[–] Mohkia@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago

Just wanted to jump in here and say thanks for setting this up. This community is helpful for so many of us in accepting and understanding this part of our lives. May we all thrive in our new home here.

Not so bad...was able to subscribe and find the sub(sorry, community) just by searching. Not thrilled to extend my social media presence further with yet another login, but the old space was a wealth of info so I think it will be useful

[–] Chungledown_Bim@lemmygrad.ml 3 points 1 year ago

So glad to see this sub here! It was one of the few that I really value on /r/, even though I'm a lurker.

[–] antaresdawn@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Hi LeftyLibra & everyone else!

[–] leftylibra@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago
[–] BoiledOats142@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Thank you for making us a new home!

[–] leftylibra@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

Thanks for coming!

[–] annarchy8@kbin.social 3 points 1 year ago

I am so freaking happy I found this instance! YAY! Using kbin has quite the learning curve, but I figured out how to subscribe here! I've had a pretty crappy week, so this is a huge win. Thank you all very much.

[–] mishellaneous@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Helloooo!!! It's taken me awhile to try and figure this out, but I think I'm here now 🤔😃 Happy to be here, this community is so precious!

[–] leftylibra@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago
[–] sahnu@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Just a note:

At a glance

the first option is invite only the second redirects to another site, so might want to update in case that redirect stops the third is barely active and has a bunch of test posts the fourth I haven't looked at yet, but it seems active. Not sure where it will lead.

I didn't realize at first I had to create an account for each of those if I want to post, didn't quite get the concept that you don't have one universal username to log into all. That's kind of annoying.

I see another person is struggling with the app, for a couple others it's not working well on the browser of their phone. Since most people use phones/tablets these days I think adoption by the general population is going to be a problem.

From posts at reddit it seems a number of people from the OG sub are upset/frustrated that the sub has closed, or they were really struggling with it going dark, because it was a vital support system for them. It seems also people feel like the whole thing has been poorly communicated to them as to what the plan was, was it temporary or permanent, and when it might return if it was temporary? I'm still not sure what's going on myself.

And the wiki and posts from the old reddit were important information people wanted to access. Fortunately my other support subs stayed open, there was some discussion among mods and community and the consensus was even if they wanted to protest, one in particular understood the nature of their support and realized going dark was a bad idea. I also noticed some subs went restricted so people could at least find old posts, because they realized that people need that place to go to or the information.

Additionally from my impression of trying to use lemmy myself, I think most people aren't technical enough so they're going to struggle with lemmy. I'm having a hard time with it myself and I'm somewhat technical, but I'm also tired and overwhelmed and burned out. This is something I could probably spare energy for if I weren't dealing with perimenopause and other life things on top of it. I also feel like if there are communities that I can use easily with considerably less friction, I would rather be there.

I think for the users who can't easily adopt lemmy (and I understand that, especially as someone overwhelmed and struggling with perimenopause/other stuff), it would be nice to at least have access to information from the wiki and old posts. Maybe reddit is wrong, but it seems like closing the sub is punishing the users rather than reddit itself. Would it be possible to at least switch the old sub to restricted?

Sorry if this is a bit rambly, I haven't had much sleep and basically I am in the midst of catching up on what is going on and trying to process it all.

[–] leftylibra@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

Thanks for taking the time to share your thoughts. I have been in discussion with other health-related mods this week and am intending to re-open the sub to restricted today. Updated info will be provided then.

[–] EighteesVibes@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

Hi Everyone!! Happy to still have access to this amazing community!

[–] mscyanide@reddthat.com 2 points 1 year ago

Yay! I've been waiting for you all to show up! 😊 I never posted much on the subreddit but lurked quite frequently. Welcome everybody!

[–] ExceptionalCow@feddit.de 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Hi there and thank you so much from yet another Reddit refugee for setting this up 😊👍

[–] AstarteOfCaelius@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

How are you guy’s finding the moderation differences?

[–] leftylibra@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] AstarteOfCaelius@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

I think I fried my brain slightly reading some of the how to communities, so far- but I am digging it. :D

[–] Daisychan@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Refugee here checking in...!

[–] RocketGirlonFire@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

Made it!! Whew.

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