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"my gf and I's" makes me want to hurl things and scream
Why is that? I'm not a native speaker and in German we usually list ourselves last so I've used that before.
It's a rule in English that "and I" is only used when it's the subject not the object of a sentence. (Subject is the thing doing the action, and the object is the thing being acted upon)
The proper way to say this would be "she's coming over me and my girlfriend's movie night" because "she" is the subject in this sentence since she is the one "coming over".
Hope that makes sense.
English doesn't follow its own rules, why should we?
Thanks for the explanation. I don't know if I'll really change my habit though. It's been ingrained into me over and over from a young age on that the "ass (donkey) always names themselves first" and it's a bit uncomfy to do so now. I also mostly don't feel bad about breaking that rule as it seems a bit arbitrary.
nerd
fake nerd, real nerds recognize that linguistic prescriptivism is poopoo and you can use language however you want, optionally in such a way that people understand what you're saying.
yup