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people have been demonizing it for most of the AD years i think but it's quite pleasant really. are there any proven negative effects?

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[–] catsarebadpeople@sh.itjust.works 3 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Asks question about psychology and masturbation. Gets well thought out response with source material and excellent advice. Responds to said comment in a rude way.

EveRYoNe is sO tRanSpHobiC!!

Lol. No. Your response was shitty and had nothing to do with the topic or the incredibly well thought out and empathetic response that you received. That's why you're being downvoted. Your gender does not give you permission to treat others poorly and you're acting no better than actual transphobes.

[–] MindTraveller@lemmy.ca -4 points 5 months ago (2 children)

I wasn't being rude, I just gently informed the other person that they were giving bad advice, without getting angry or aggressive or belittling them in any way. You're only reading my normal, pleasant interactions with other people as rude because you want an excuse to hate a trans person.

[–] TimewornTraveler@lemm.ee 0 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (1 children)

I just gently informed the other person that they were giving bad advice,

Do you really think they were giving bad advice? They presented something really well thought-out and with flippin citations! And I can say that Hayes is absolutely a credible expert in the field who has done amazing work in mental health and addiction.

You just don't like the answer. Because you believe the answer is too hard for you.

And it's an easy excuse to say you're being persecuted for your identity, but really it is your attitude being criticized. Honestly it's frustratingly transphobic of you to try and lump in maladaptive sexual responses with transness too. Do you see what kind of damage it can potentially do to portray a hypersexual trait as something essentially trans???

[–] MindTraveller@lemmy.ca -1 points 5 months ago (1 children)

It's good advice in general, but it's bad advice for me, as I already explained multiple times. And I'm asexual, not hypersexual. I tell you I'm getting genital nullification surgery and you still go and erase my very obvious queerness.

[–] TimewornTraveler@lemm.ee 1 points 5 months ago

you never mentioned that you are ace and being ace has nothing to do with being trans!!!!

[–] catsarebadpeople@sh.itjust.works 0 points 5 months ago (1 children)

This is what is called gaslighting and it's deplorable.

[–] MindTraveller@lemmy.ca -3 points 5 months ago (1 children)

No, gaslighting is when someone tries to make you question your sanity. Someone disagreeing with you isn't called gaslighting, it's called a disagreement. Obviously I'm going to disagree with you when you make up nonsense about my own actions. And if I had been as obnoxious and incorrect as you are, then I would have accused you of gaslighting when you told me my own actions were different than they really are.

[–] catsarebadpeople@sh.itjust.works 1 points 5 months ago (1 children)

K. I'm done feeding the troll. Try being more accepting of people and you may find that your imagined persecution happens a lot less. Have a good day.

[–] TimewornTraveler@lemm.ee 0 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (1 children)

i just realized that discussing mindfulness with people suffering from persecutory delusions is literally my day job and i dunno why im reading work stuff on my day off wtf

but uhh yeah you made the right call here, delusions dont tend to respond well to logical confrontation

[–] MindTraveller@lemmy.ca -1 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Wow, your job is mental healthcare? And yet your go-to move is accusing strangers who disagree with you of mental illness to win internet points? You must be ruining your patients' lives. I hope someone gets you barred from practice so you can't hurt anyone anymore.

[–] TimewornTraveler@lemm.ee -1 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

yep im hitler. although i never accused you of mental illness, i dont believe in mental "illness". i accused you of being delusional. that's a very human condition, just a symptom not a diagnosis. as far as courtesy goes, you arent my pt and i dont owe you shit - and sometimes people need it gently, sometimes they need it bluntly. you are free to bring this up with the ethics board /j