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The number of examples I have seen of people being told to shut up about their lived experiences with sexual abuse in the past 24 hours on this platform is deeply disturbing.

I am calling on y’all to take a deep breath and listen to women for once. There is a time and place for tone policing and it’s never the very minute a woman speaks up.

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[–] nicknonya@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 4 months ago (4 children)

i guess i wasn't online when this bear meme happened? what was it about?

[–] dexa_scantron@lemmy.world 15 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Hypothetical question posed to women: would you rather be alone in the woods with a bear or a man? Many women said "bear". Many men took that personally.

[–] gbuttersnaps@programming.dev 8 points 4 months ago (1 children)

What a stupid thing to spend energy getting upset about. I'm a bigger than average dude and I'd pick the bear as well; humans are capable of all kinds of villainy, bears are just bears. I'd like to find the statistics on women attacked by bears in the woods compared to women attacked by men, it has to be overwhelming more common to be attacked by a man.

[–] dexa_scantron@lemmy.world 4 points 4 months ago

I agree with you completely; I'm surprised that people are upset as well, but there are plenty of people in this thread who feel that the question unreasonably attacks men and is deliberately inflammatory.

[–] Gork@lemm.ee 10 points 4 months ago

I don't have a particular Lemmy link, but here's a general overview from knowyourmeme.

[–] Prunebutt@slrpnk.net 10 points 4 months ago (1 children)
[–] PrivateNoob@sopuli.xyz 7 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Thank you for the link. It seems rather surprising by how many woman apparently chooses the bear option. I understand their reasoning but I thought it would be 60/40 favoring the bear.

[–] Seleni@lemmy.world 9 points 4 months ago (1 children)

According to the CDC, 1 in 3 women in the US have been victims of sexual harassment or assault. And honestly, given how underreported those sorts of stats are, it’s probably higher.

Another hypothetical question was posed to women a while ago: if all the men on the planet got whisked away (not killed, just sent to an awesome men-only vacation planet or something) for 48 hours, what would you do?

The answers were overwhelmingly things like ‘go for a walk at night’, ‘take a jog with my earbuds in’, ‘go to the gym’…

[–] PrivateNoob@sopuli.xyz 5 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Well that sounds sadly realistic, but honestly the 1 in 4 attempted or completed rape is miles away more shocking. I'm so out of touch with reality damn.

[–] Seleni@lemmy.world 4 points 4 months ago

Hey, at least you’re listening and giving it serious thought. That’s better than some people.