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Being unphased by traumatic situations. At least right away. If a loved one dies or there’s a terrorist attack, I feel nothing until usually months go by. It then hits me randomly and I get as upset as you’d expect one to at the beginning.
I have a similar reaction to things. Unfortunately, it often causes people to look at me to figure shit out in the moment. Just because I'm not freaking out doesn't mean I know a damn thing about the correct course of action right now.
I get a different reaction. People see me as disturbed or heartless, I get “What is wrong with you” and “Don’t you feel anything right now?” One time I responded with honesty. Bad call brother. I try to look upset, but it probably resembles the same level of concern one might show when trying to determine the perpetrator of an especially offensive fart.
That's rough, though imagining your description is quite funny.
This is a totally normal response. Check out the book The Other Side of Sadness by George Bonanno if you want to learn more!
Welcome to the heartless club!