Sorry you experienced that. I had not heard of that meme before reading that thread you linked. I'll say as an male-presenting person, it definitely doesn't feel good to have people assume that you are inherently dangerous for reasons that are out of your control. That's where the instinct to minimize comes from, I think.

But that's how it is, unfortunately. That's the consequence of living under patriarchy, and if a guy doesn't like it then they should assist in dismantling it rather than trying to dismiss its harms.

[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 10 points 6 months ago (1 children)

That's where the instinct to minimize comes from, I think.

Goofy-ass, ridiculous instinct. Idk where people in privileged groups get this idea that condescending to or whining at people of marginalised groups is a good idea. I think the absolute bare minimum you can do is listen to those less privileged to you. It's not like the Institution Of Maleness needs defending.

(Good comment btw, I'm just on a roll today)

[–] DamarcusArt@lemmygrad.ml 7 points 6 months ago

Yeah, it's a knee-jerk reaction, and it's dumb as hell. Even dumber are the ones who double down after being called out. It sucks to have your feelings hurt because someone was scared of you, but the sort of fucked up shit a creepy guy can do to women is far worse. Dudes seriously putting their feelings above other people's safety, it's fucked up.