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When people tell you who they are... (lemmy.world)

submitted 8 months ago by The_Picard_Maneuver@lemmy.world to c/whitepeopletwitter@sh.itjust.works

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[–] Jax@sh.itjust.works 11 points 8 months ago (2 children)

It is more nuanced.

I'm what you would consider handsome, until you take a picture of me. Then I look just fucked, I don't know what it is about my face but it has to be in motion.

You might just be better in person. Don't know, but I think it's all about perspective. No one will like you if you can't find a way to like yourself.

[–] Asafum@feddit.nl 4 points 8 months ago

I think that's part of it to be honest. When I take a picture I look absolutely atrocious, no angles or lighting save me from looking ugly as hell lol

[–] Grumpy@sh.itjust.works 4 points 8 months ago (1 children)

You likely don't know how to take pictures. There was one "coach" that I've seen who basically said take 100 selfies a day to get skilled at taking pictures of yourself. As well as when taken by someone else. That way you know what poses, angles and expressions work and don't work for you. There's obviously more about it, but point is that everything needs practice, and a lot of it.

[–] Jax@sh.itjust.works 3 points 8 months ago (2 children)

Is it odd that I feel weird practicing taking pictures of myself? What you're saying makes perfect sense, I just feel grimy in the doing.

[–] Grumpy@sh.itjust.works 2 points 8 months ago

It's not odd imo. I feel weird about it too. But I can't help but accept it as a fact which works. All the insta addicted people essentially do this every day for years and it's why they're able to produce good pictures.

[–] VirtualOdour@sh.itjust.works 1 points 8 months ago (1 children)

It's normal socialization into the puritanical slave cult mentality which dominates popular culture, men especially aren't allowed to be seen to care about appearance while simultaneously being heavily judged for any deviation from the accepted norms.

I think it's actually a radical act against the established patriarchy to take the time to learn to look your best in selfies and to pose for pictures. Learn your body, use beauty products, think about what outfits suit you and what they say about you.

[–] Jax@sh.itjust.works 2 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

I think that your reasoning likely applies to some or many, but it is in no way reflective of why I dislike preening myself.

I've experienced excessive vanity, I've experienced blatant narcissism. I also recognized the capacity for both within myself, which is what makes posing in front of a mirror feel so slimy to me. I just don't know if others feel this way, or have had similar reactions.