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So I've realized that in conversations I'll use traditional terms for men as general terms for all genders, both singularly and for groups. I always mean it well, but I've been thinking that it's not as inclusive to women/trans people.

For example I would say:

"What's up guys?" "How's it going man?" "Good job, my dude!” etc.

Replacing these terms with person, people, etc sounds awkward. Y'all works but sounds very southern US (nowhere near where I am located) so it sounds out of place.

So what are some better options?

Edit: thanks for all the answers peoples, I appreciate the honest ones and some of the funny ones.

The simplest approach is to just drop the usage of guys, man, etc. Folks for groups and mate for singular appeal to me when I do want to add one in between friends.

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[–] ComradePorkRoll@lemmy.world 31 points 8 months ago (2 children)

I find "y'all" works pretty well, so does "folks" or even better "Fellow Workers."

[–] olympicyes@lemmy.world 7 points 8 months ago (1 children)

“Y’all” is Texas’ greatest cultural contribution IMO.

[–] cmbabul@lemmy.world 2 points 8 months ago

Texas does not get to claim that 100%, Georgia, Alabama, the Carolinas, Tennessee, and Mississippi own a good bit of that

[–] kaffiene@lemmy.world 4 points 8 months ago (3 children)

I've noticed people using these more but I hate them. It's a cultural thing. I'm a New Zealander and y'all sound American redneck to me and folks just sounds weird.

[–] june@lemmy.world 8 points 8 months ago

Rich coming from someone who says ‘nor’ instead of ‘no’.

/s

Seriously, I love NZ and can’t wait to get back there. I’ve only met a few shitty kiwis and they were all here in the US lmao

[–] hglman@lemmy.ml 3 points 8 months ago (1 children)

All it takes is using it for a bit, and it doesn't.

[–] kaffiene@lemmy.world 0 points 8 months ago

Nah. To me this is like suggesting to Americans that they start saying "good sirs" as a greeting. It grates

[–] BlueEther@no.lastname.nz 1 points 8 months ago

good point, bro