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Cisgender people of Lemmygrad: why are you cis? (lemmygrad.ml)
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~semi-~ Serious question, Idon’t get it. Most of us get why the hegemonic gender system is stupid, why subscribe to the binary role you were assigned? Also, why do straight people exist? Maybe it’s just me but I like to look and feel like my own perception of what is attractive.

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[–] destroyamerica@lemmygrad.ml 12 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

idk, im just pretty comfy as I am (cishet man)? I feel no dysphoria, and I like having "masculine" traits. If society magically changed to where gender didn't really exist tomorrow (or hell, if what I present as is now seen as "feminine") I dont think it would bother me. Pretty much the same thing for being straight, I like people who look "feminine", and I'm not attracted to penises. I'm sure at least some of this is cultural stuff, but then again I'm not sure any of this would be possible to change about myself so I'm not sure if that matters?

edit: another thought, I'd love to read answers from anyone here on lemmygrad or hexbear whose native language isn't gendered in anyway, like not even with pronouns, to see if that has any effect on your thoughts on this.