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Expecting... (self.dads)

submitted 9 months ago by abadidonque to c/dads

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I have my first child due very soon. It's already been an internal oddysey for me during pregnancy and I'm aware that that's just the beginning of it. But you lot are on the other side of the birth, so:

What should I understand right now to help me keep the courage and love to embrace this?

Also, a very humble request that you could spare a wish that our baby is born well. I really want it and anything might help!

Thanks!

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[–] gedaliyah@lemmy.world 3 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

There's so much great input put in this thread! I don't think i have much to offer other than these:

A simple baby carrier like the one I used from konny will go a long way toward bonding with baby while still getting things done. Anything that's portable enough the stuff in a pocket and machine washable is a big win in my book.

The main job of the first couple months revolves around getting milk or formula into that little mouth. Your life will revolve around planning, preparing, feeding, cleaning, storing, etc. Every baby is different, so it will take a while how to find a rhythm, system, diet, etc. that works for everyone. If the expensive formula mixer or bottle sanitizer makes your life easier, then consider it an investment. It is a job.

Focus on your values and your communication with your partner. Will you pursue job opportunities to build a financial future, or spend extra time being present with baby? How important is baby's relationship with Grandparents and other family? A healthy parenting relationship is all about values and communication, and what you establish in those first few months sets your baseline for the future.

In my culture we say, b'sha-a tova, which means, "may everything with the pregnancy and birth happen at the proper time and in the right way."