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Is hook-up culture part of individualism because it commodifies other people as just sex objects? (lemmygrad.ml)
submitted 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) by Skipper1402@lemmygrad.ml to c/asklemmygrad@lemmygrad.ml
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I am thinking of the mindset of wanting to hook up with as many people as possible not taking into consideration other people ‘s feelings or who might get hurt in by the process, which objectifies other individuals. That is an individualistic thought process, right?

Edit: I meant commodification in the sense of online dating apps, escort services, only fans, porn, prostitution and patriarchy. This trickles to the culture due to base and superstructure, and it is adopted by individualism.

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[–] mayo_cider@hexbear.net 3 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

Why do you feel like hooking up means not taking into consideration other people's feelings or who might get hurt in the process?

Every time I've hooked up there was either a spoken or implicitly obvious unspoken understanding of the situation, e.g. the other person was in an open relationship

The mindset to hook up with as many people as possible just for the sake of bodycount could/would be toxic, but that's rarely the situation, people just enjoy casual sex

The problems begin where communication ends (or expectations outgrow the communication, but that's on the expectee)

[–] Skipper1402@lemmygrad.ml 3 points 8 months ago (1 children)

The act of hooking up reduces other people to sex objects to satisfy’s one needs. One is not trying to make a connection with other humans by hooking up or trying to make a community by hooking up. One is only trying to get rid of sexual urges and seeing other individuals as a medium for that. As another comment mentioned that is atomization and individualistic.