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People who dated a jerk/abusive person. How it started? How they convinced you to date them? How long it took them to mask off? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 1 year ago by vis4valentine@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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[–] utopianfiat@lemmy.world 17 points 1 year ago

Victimization doesn't make you stupid. Obviously nothing is wrong with learning lessons through experience but abuse has a way of making the smartest people feel stupid for being vulnerable as part of what we feel as love. You're able to recognize it for what it was, and that's more than many people can say.