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I’ve struggled with my weight my entire life. Only the last 10 years has that improved but it will always be a struggle.
Kids are assholes and I was tormented all through grade school up until my last year of middle school. That’s when I was strong (and fed up) enough to protect myself.
Before that I used humor to try and deflect. Self deprecation, deflection, and sometimes just avoiding the situation altogether. Which meant isolation for the most part.
My “solution” isn’t recommended but ultimately giving the bullies a taste of their medicine kept them away. But I suffered immensely prior to that. It fucks you up for life.
What you say about self deprecation and so on, reminds me of someone in my youth. I hope he's OK.
I'm sorry that you are struggling with your weight. I once dated someone who had issues with her weight and we had a magnificent time. I think she attracted me because she learned to accept herself at a young age.
I totally feel you on the self deprication survival instinct. I also struggled with my weight all through school, and being the first one to call myself fat helped deter others since I already made the joke.
Turns out calling yourself fat all the time isn't much better than others doing it though, as I now have quite the complex about eating, exercise, body image, etc.