Can you send a text or email and tell them that? Just say, hey my anxiety is preventing me from calling you and guilt for all the time past is feeding it.

[–] Somsphet@lemmy.zip 4 points 1 year ago

You can.

The problem is them at that point. They still blamed me despite my best efforts.

[–] Lemmylefty@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

“I want to call, but I feel guilty about not calling for so long. Do you want me to call?”

Some people will tell you to fuck off, some will grit their teeth and say yes, and some will just be happy you’re talking again. It can hurt to lose a friend, but it’s better to lay it on the table and let them choose you or not instead of wallowing in the guilt.