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Have any of you ever called your previous job/landlord to see what kind of reference they would give you? (leminal.space)

submitted 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) by CorrodedCranium@leminal.space to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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You'd probably need someone else to call on your behalf. If you have, how did it turn out?

Edit: There seems to be some confusion about what I'm asking. I'm not talking about fake references. I'm talking about calling your reference on the sly to see if they're actually going to give you a positive review.

For example things don't go well with your landlord and you suspect they're going to depict you as bad tenant when you put them down as a reference while looking for a new place.

The same thing could be said for bosses and jobs.

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[–] xmunk@sh.itjust.works 11 points 10 months ago (1 children)

It worked great, usually I'll arrange for a reference while leaving my previous job but doing it retroactively works too. Usually I'll prefer a reference from a work friend over someone with an impressive title.

[–] grabyourmotherskeys@lemmy.world 15 points 10 months ago

And this is why you don't exit a job by soaking the bridges in jet fuel and lighting them up with a flamethrower.

I have left jobs where I literally wanted to punch my boss out but stayed professional and got a
good reference.

I have also watched people lose their minds and yell insults and threats while being escorted out.

Your ego is bullshit. Leave on good terms and get a better job.