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How do you (easily) respect boundaries? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) by Amicchan@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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For me, trying to respect boundaries tires me out more. idk why.

I struggled to respect boundaries as a child and early teenager. I think I still struggle to respect boundaries; but I am uncertain because I haven't talked to an acquaintance in 7 months.

As a child and early teenager; I constantly hit on my female friends. (I don't know why.)

I keep looking at people's feet and it tires me. I don't know if I developed a foot fetish; or it's just a habitual behavior that I developed because I hate eye contact.

I know that ignoring boundaries can cause health problems long term.

My reasoning for this behavior:

I do get pressured by my parent to go to the store with them because, to me, they're ~40 and may struggle to transport groceries.
After 8 years age, I used to be pressured to go to church; but that stopped when I became a teenager.
I only hungout with a friend at home once. Usually I only have acquaintances. Maybe I have less experience with friendship.

I think I feel pressured to go along with everything.

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[–] TheAnonymouseJoker@lemmy.ml -3 points 2 years ago

You are character wise underconfident and underexposed to real world social settings. You have time, correct that once this COVID situation is over.