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As I've progressed from my early to mid 20s this is something I've really tried to focus on.
I was extremely reactive and volatile emotionally, and a single thing could fuck up my entire day. Between my brain doing its last bit of developing, and getting a hold of my generalized anxiety disorder and depressive disorder through therapy, I've gone from, "this fucking sucks" before having break downs in the worst case to, "I can feel bad once it's fixed, but it's gotta be fixed first".
This is definitely a healthier mindset, but I catch myself trying to fix things that just can't be fixed. Sometimes you just gotta let go, so that's been my focus recently. It's hard, but I think recognizing it has been a great first step.