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Why is using a different word to refer to someone such a problem?

Depends. Do I get to pick which words I refer to them by? If so, then no, I'm all for it.

But if I have to call a eunuch with an extra hole a "she", then yes; that's debasing to actual females and it's feeding a delusion.

And if I am required to call them something that I personally disagree with in order to avoid fines or HR issues then that's even worse as it infringes on my own freedoms.

People don’t lose their minds when someone gets a non-gender related name change, like when a woman gets married and takes a new last name.

And non-gender name changes are generally restricted to just that - there's no political agenda bullshit behind it. If "Harry Johnson" wants to change his name to "Paul Smith", generally for most normal people it's not about forcing others to acknowledge something but to not have a shitty name that responsible parents would have avoided (looking at you Elon), to change identities for witness protection or similar, or to cut ties with an old life / estranged family. Or in the case of a marriage, to acknowledge tying oneself to another primary family unit.

Even the more reasonable pronoun (meaning feminine/masculine/neuter) stuff still implicitly tacks on acceptance of their politics and there is the authoritarian aspect of forcing people. I'm pretty sure if I wanted to be an asshole and refer to someone with a non-gender related name change by the old name, that the worst that is going to happen is I would annoy that person. I'm never going to have my livelihood threatened or be fined over such a thing.

And that's assuming we restrict to reasonable pronouns and don't allow people to make up whatever fucking bullshit they want.

You might not think that little language details like this matter but then if that's the case you probably haven't spent much time considering all the effort that needs to go into little stupid minutia changes like this. I remember when BLM was in full swing and people were bitching about the usage of terms like "whitelist" / "blacklist" too (despite the origin of these having absolutely nothing to do with skin color) and how much manpower it took for people who had to update legal verbiage, text on websites, and source code repositories (the latter also requiring rebuilding and retesting code, not to mention just fielding tickets for the requests... and this for literally thousands of projects, most of them by unpaid hobbyists).

The people pushing this nonsense need to pull their heads out of their collective asses and stop expecting society to pivot on a dime and cater to them. Getting rid of bullying has created a generation that can't handle criticism and expect everyone to treat them like someone special instead of someone "special".

At least 42% of these nutcases fix the problem themselves but that doesn't take care of all the rabid sjw mongoloids chomping at the bit.

And the pushing it on kids part is vastly over-exaggerated, best I can see, barring the occasional nutjob.

It is literally being taught in some grade schools as part of the curriculum. Kids don't need to think some nutjob lopping off his dick is normal behavior. They shouldn't even fucking know about that shit at that age.

Trans stuff shouldn't be taught at school for any age.

Them existing is fine and if they want to mutilate their own bodies, that's their call. But stop trying to normalize their behavior to society. It's just disgusting. If there are kids thinking about that, they should be taken to counseling to help overcome their depression / autism / etc. If they can't be helped and are resolute, then they can eliminate themselves from the breeding pool after they reach adulthood and have had a few years to let the consequences of a major permanent surgery sink in.