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One side of my family is super white and unintentionally very racist. To give an example, they don't hate Native Americans (or anyone for that matter), but will causally refer to them as Indians and seem to think they go around wearing feathered masks in 2023.
My fiancee is Korean, and her English is so-so- which is probably for the best, because if she could understand the things my Grandfather randomly splurts out she would rightfully be quite offended.
But there's no malice, only ignorance. My fiancee and I pick our battles and let it slide.
My friend, ongoing ignorance IS malice. I'm sorry to be the one to break this to you, but your family are just plain old racist.
(I say that as a person from a family full of very friendly, very racist people.)
They probably don't know you find the terms they use offensive. If you're clear with them, hopefully they would do better.